NARA'S NOTEPAD
VOLUME 12
MAY 2016
NUMBER 5
Saturday, April 30, 2016
SPONSOR
NARA’S
NOTEPAD
THANK
Mr. T. M.
Vardharaj B.Sc(Ag)
Cancer Disease Consultant, Deenampalayam Post, Coimbatore,
Mobile:
09894688383
MEMO FROM NARA
I am not a lawyer. Still I like to pen down something about
lawyers who are professionals, serving our society by upholding the law of the
land. If I am a lawyer, I may not know some of the flaws committed by lawyers.
As an ordinary citizen of our country, I keep myself informed about what is
going on around us.
A full page report on the lawyers’ agitation in Madras High
Court in a daily recently induced me to think about the lawlessness of lawyers!
The statistics presented regarding pending cases in Tamil Nadu was 8.8 lakh
criminal cases as on December 2014 is of course alarming! I think the increase
in number of cases is something to do with the growing population or peoples’
intolerance.
Lawyers boycotting court, the sacred place where everyone
including common men and women come to seek justice, leads to accumulate more
cases. “Cancelling one day would quite obviously increase the cases at a faster
rate” felt one of the advocates. A yesteryear-lawyer felt that he obeyed the
law and kept himself away from litigants and maintained a safe distance. It is
often said nowadays that olden time was the best to live in!
Why lawyers are lawyers indulge in lawless activities at
times? We do observe the lawlessness in Government Law Colleges. Students go on
strike for indefinite periods and take law in their hands creating lawlessness.
These students become full-fledged lawyers and behave the same way as they
behaved in their colleges.
In general, lawyers identify themselves with caste
associations, political parties etc. No judge is enforcing discipline among
lawyers who are vociferous and arrogant. Lack of infrastructure and too many
vacancies in Government Law Colleges are cited as reasons for students’
lawlessness.
It is expected that a lawyer should be proud to call him or
herself an honourable lawyer by suitably equipping themselves as one and not
disobeying the law. It is not as if all lawyers are bad, but a few of them are!
In fact, such number is increasing day by day. The issue raised by the lawyers
of Tamil Nadu is that Tamil should be the court language. All lawyers fully know
that High Court has no power to declare Tamil as the official court language.
Still the lawyers protested in the Madras High Court campus.
One of the advocates, Sudha Ramalingam said that the few
advocates who have taken law into their hands, eroded the image of Bar and the
Bench in the eyes of the common man. Resolving the problem has become a
responsibility of Judges. Negotiations and mediations are the ways by which
the learned Judges can resolve differences and come to a
conclusion to run the court for the countless clients who knock the doors of
courts every day.
Whatever we may say, the
fact remains that in India when a child lies, it is said that you are fit to
become a lawyer. It is a general perception that if you are a lawyer you would
lie! Actually it is not true as an advocate says. A lawyer is not supposed to
lie and hence he is an officer of the court!
TO SHAKE UP YOUR LIFE
1. Try
saying “yes” instead on “no”.
2. Don’t allow your feelings to dictate your behaviour.
3. Travel to somewhere you haven’t been before.
4. Spend time with people who are different from you.
5. Try a new food, or learn or new skills.
6. Live in the present, not the future or the past.
7. Do something different - that scares you - every day.
SIMPLIFY LIFE
v Breathe. When stressed, lost in a problem or the past or future in your
mind breathe with your belly for two minutes and just focus on the air going in
and out. This will calm your body down and bring your mind back into the
present.
v Do one thing a time. You’ll get better results and feel better
and less stressed while doing those things.
v Write it all down. Use your mind for better things than
remembering what to do. And the mind is often like a leaky bucket. So write
down all your great ideas, insights and thoughts before they go missing
somewhere and add what you need to do to a to-do list.
v Do all your food shopping once a week. You’ll save
time, energy and possibly money.
v Stop doing what you don’t like doing any more. Life
changes and so do you. If you don’t like doing something anymore then stop doing
that (even if it may take some time before you can do so by for example:
switching jobs).
v Stop trying to please everyone. There will always be people who you don’t
get along with or that do not like you for some reason.
v Stop trying to do things perfectly. Go for good
enough instead and when you are there you are done. Get things all the way to
do this way and then move on to the next thing.
v Pack your bag before you go to bed. Then you
don’t have to get stressed out by that in morning and you are less likely to
forget something.
TO QUOTE
Kindness is
the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.
– Mark Twain
Silence is
golden when you can’t think of good answer.
– Muhammad Ali
JUST TO LAUGH
Once all the
engineering professors were sitting in one plane. Before the take off one
announcement came “this plane is made by your students” then all professors
stood up, ran and went outside, but the principal was sitting. One gay came and
asked “You are not afraid” then the Principal replied: “ I trust my students
very well and I am sure the plane won’t ever start.”
Last night I got into
an argument with my husband. I told him to take what’s his and leave. He picked
me and walked straight out of the door.
A blonde calls Delta
Airlines and asks, ‘Can you tell me how long it’ll take to fly from New York
city to London?’ The agent replies, ‘just a minute.’ Thank you’ the blonde says
and hang up.
YOU ARE VALUABLE
- Being enough isn’t something you have to prove.
- Being enough isn’t something you have to earn.
- You are immensely valuable right now – just where you are, and just as you
are.
- It doesn’t matter how you dress, where you’re from, or how you look – you are
valuable.
-It doesn’t matter what you’ve achieved (or haven’t achieved) – you are
valuable.
- It doesn’t matter what your peers or your family do and say – you are
valuable.
- It doesn’t matter what you’ve done (whether good or bad) – you are valuable.
- Don’t believe the lies you’re hearing, or are saying to yourself.
ANGER MANAGEMENT
1. Think before you speak as you can’t take back
your words.
2. Don’t say anything until you’re feeling calm. We often regret what we say
when we are mad.
3. Be simple and clear when you express what bothered you. Don’t be
disrespectful, rude or hyper-critical.
4. Choose to leave the room or to distract yourself when you feel your emotions
are really being stirred.
5. Try, if you can, to get some exercise as that reduces stress, and changes
physiology.
6. Think about the people you enjoy being with, as that will remind you that
not everyone is bad.
7. Try to plan ahead so you have some strategies when your feel the anger rising
and you need to take control.
LINES I LIKED
Ø Keep all of your commitments, if you want to be
happy.
Ø Keep digging for facts or data until the root
cause is unearthed and they apply their minds to the solution.
Ø Keep on improving by using failure as a
signal that you need to try harder.
Combine new things!
Meet you next month – June, 2016
Professor A. Narayanan, Ph. D., FISPP
E-mail: arumugakannu@gmail.com
Ph : 0422 4393017 Mobile : 098422 42301
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Saturday, April 2, 2016
SPONSOR
NARA’S NOTEPAD
THANK
Mr. T. M. Vardharaj B.Sc(Ag)
Cancer Disease Consultant
Deenampalayam Post, Coimbatore
Mobile: 09894688383
FOR SPONORING THIS ISSUE
MEMO FROM NARA
Freedom of speech is our
right today. We are free to question everything and anything happening around
us. There was a time we had no freedom to ask questions. In fact we were afraid
and we were also not allowed to question. We accepted everything and anything
even within our own family. In schools and colleges we just blindly followed
what the teachers and professors said. We thought we have to follow the elders.
But today, in the modern world
education opened our eyes to ask questions to find sensible answers. Both boys
and girls have the courage to question every activity in order to get a
suitable answer. Even the government orders or court judgements are questioned!
In our parliamentary system, we see how the majority party is questioned by the
minority parties.
People today ask questions like: ‘who
says God likes topless men not jeans?’ and ‘why Science Congress is a circus?’
If such questions are not asked there will not be progress in these fields. In
order to make improvements and progress we need to ask constructive questions
which will lead to constructive planning and execution of projects. This is the
positive side. At the same time, people question just t o block a project. Such
protests sometimes lead to violence. We do see such activities everyday in our
towns and cities.
Free speech sometimes offends somebody.
Last year (2015) in the month of January 12 people connected with Charlie Hebdo
were gunned down in Paris because of the free speech phenomenon. Cartoons
supposedly insulting the Prophet Mohammad were published in Charlie Hebdo.
Writers want freedom to write whatever they want. Free speech has to be
curtailed if it calls for violence or criminality. Respect for others has to be
kept in mind when we speech or write.
Questioning is not wrong, but
protesting is wrong. Questioning is to find a solution. Protesting is a severe
method used for finding solution. Freedom of speech has to be used in the
proper way. We cannot speak irrelevant things in the name of freedom of speech.
One has to be responsible to look the good and bad of an event or an idea or an
opinion or a viewpoint. Then only one can find a solution. Preconceived hard
ideas cannot solve a problem!
Most of the politicians and lawyers
employ a technique to achieve their goals. The technique is to simply crate
fear in the minds of people. People with fear cannot be free. So they lose
their freedom and never try to question.
Such things are tried with individuals. At the same time, the fear is
overlooked in a group of individuals. These groups revolt and question
politicians and lawyers. In India, although it is free and democratic,
freedom is somehow denied for a larger section of people
even today. Only the braves stand up and question whereas the weak submit and
keep quite. Probably that
is the way of life – it appears!
FOOD FOR THOUGHT
Surround yourself with
people who know your worth.
You don’t need too many friends in your life, you just
need a few who can see who you are,
and appreciate your uniqueness and value.
Bad habits are like a
comfortable bed, easy to get into, but hard to get out of.
RULES FOR LIVING
1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
2. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
3. Follow the three Rs.
4. Respect for self.
5. Respect for others.
6. Responsibility for all your actions.
7. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
8. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
9. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
10. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
11. Spend some time alone every day.
12. Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values.
13. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
14. Live a good, honourable life. Then when you get older and think back, you'll be able to enjoy it a second time.
15. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
16. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don't bring up the past.
17. Share your knowledge. It's a way to achieve immortality.
18. Be gentle with the earth.
19. Once a year, go someplace you've never been before.
20. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
21. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
- DALAI LAMA
TO QUOTE...
We fail to
see the opportunity for joy that is right in front of us when we are caught in
a belief that happiness should take a particular form. – Thich Nhat Hauh
Kindness in
words creates confidence and kindness in thinking creates profoundness. – Lao Tzu
Rising
inequalities is one of the great challenges of our time: - Thomas Piketty.
There is
nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so. – William Shakespeare
JUST TO LAUGH...
A rich
businessman
walks down the street when he spots an old man sitting with a fishing rod next
to a puddle, trying to fish. The businessman takes pity on the old deranged man
and invites him to lunch at the coffee shop close by. After the meal, the
businessman asks him with a smile: “So? Did you catch any fish today?” “Sure
did,” answers the old man “you’re my third one.”
A little girl comes home from school and tells her mom
”Mommy, today I got punished for something I didn’t do!”
“What?. What
do you mean?” Her mother says, angry, “I’m going to call your teacher right
now! What is it you didn’t do?”
“My home
work.”
DEALING WITH REJECTION
First, recognize that not everyone is like you. We have different likes and dislikes, we want different things, and we all see people and the world in different ways. Hence, it is natural that sometimes people will be upset, offended, or react differently from what we expected. It’s not necessarily personal – it’s more a reflection of the fact that we all are different.
2. Try and leave your emotions aside and objective analyse the situation. Ask yourself: “Is this person’s reaction triggering something me?” It could be that you are over-reacting to a perceived rejection because of previous hurts, put downs and rejections. Alternatively, the other person’s reaction could be more related to what is going on in their life at the time (rather than being a personal rejection of you.)
3. Be alert to over-generalizing and over-personalizing. For example, look out for the tendency to think things like that “That means I’m a terrible person, and no-one likes me” or “I never do anything right. I always say and do the wrong thing. I’m always going to get it wrong and be rejected by everyone.”
4. Look for friendships and affirmation in other places. It’s wise to have a wide range of friends and acquaintances so that our self-image and self-esteem aren’t tied into how a few key people treat us, or react towards us.
5. Accept that snubs and rejections are part of life. We can’t please all of the people all of the time – we can only please some of the people some of the time. And while it’s wise to check to see if we display certain habits, traits or behaviours that often annoy others (and it is wise to work on changing those), at the end of the day we just have to be ourselves. We can’t spend our lives walking on egg shells, or trying to be someone we were never meant to be.
LINES I LIKED
Ø
Many good
sayings are found in holy books, but merely reading them will not make one
religious.
Ø
Many men
seek to destroy innocent lives in order to promote a cause or gain power over
others.
Ø
Many of our
most baffling problems are pure illusion.
Ø
Many of the
great things in the history of our civilization have been achieved by the
independent will of a determined soul.
No matter where you go, there you are!
Meet you next month – May, 2016
Professor A. Narayanan, Ph. D., FISPP
E-mail: arumugakannu@gmail.com
Ph : 0422 4393017 Mobile : 098422 42301
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