MEMO FROM NARA

‘Knowing the feelings of others’ is an important aspect of everyone’s life. Most of the times we fail to understand this simple and useful aspect of life. Generally, it is the common tendency to impose our views on others and thus powerful people suppress the less powerful people. After all we are all human beings having feelings and little bit of independent thinking. Moreover, everybody can think and decide what they want and what they want to do. When someone starts advising others, they have to know the inner feelings of others. It is always better because, the one who listens to us should not be offended. Telling and boasting oneself to another person who is not in his/her life-standard is always unacceptable. But generally people do this just to show their superiority over others. Understanding others’ feelings and behaving accordingly is a sensible proposition. May be family members or friends or strangers, - we all need to remember that they all have feelings as we have. Hurting their feelings is not a cultured behavior as all of us know. Although we all know this, still at times we forget to follow it and commit gross mistakes and misunderstandings.

Again, it is known that people differ in their behavior. Even though we follow the golden principle of knowing others’ feelings – another member of the family or a friend or a stranger may not follow it. This is the diversity of behavior we come across in our day-to-day life. What to do? We have to bear it and if possible we may make them to understand the valuable principle, so that he/she may also start following. Thus, a better society with clear understanding, open mind and respect for others’ feelings can be created. Still we may find some type of persons who feel pleasure in hurting the feelings of others. They are sadists. What to do with such characters? Better avoid them and be away from them. That may be the best way not to get our feelings hurt by such mad people who may be in our family or among our friends. Filtering people and finding some who are like-minded and helpful is, in fact an art. Let us be an artist of this art.