MEMO FROM NARA

Dumb people cannot talk; but others can talk. Talking is one of the fortunate virtues most of us got for expressing our thoughts and feelings. Talking needs proper words and tones. Soft talking is soothing for all of us. Rude talk is not liked by all. The topic one chooses to talk should be interesting to others. We usually talk liberally to our relatives and friends i.e. to the known persons. Since we know their attitudes and their likening we try to talk accordingly. Talking to new friends and strangers is an up-hill task for many of us. Shyness makes us to limit our talk. Without knowing the taste of the other person it is very difficult to express our views. Little by little it is possible to know the likes and dislikes of others and then talking to them becomes much easier.

Some of us are vociferous talkers in some familiar subjects like politics, business, education and sports. In fact, one can easily judge the depth of knowledge one possesses in these subjects from their talk. Forceful talking is considered to be the best because it mesmerize others and make them believe what is said. Talking becomes interesting when some jokes are inserted into it. ‘Take it easy’ talks are preferred among friends. Serious talks are taken seriously. Arguments on a particular topic lead to counter arguments. Talking for and against a controversial topic becomes a debate. Logic, reasons and evidences add more strength to our talk. Empty talk is not appreciated. Talking to an audience is invariably a monologue whereas talking to one or two individuals is a dialogue.

People question a statement if it not understood or untrue. Therefore, one has to be careful while talking. In fact, talking creates a wave in others mind. Some of the catchy words or sentences can stimulate them to think. Sometimes talking relieves our stress and tension. Laughing, talking, singing, shouting, crying, smiling and commenting elevates our mood and confidence.

Everyone expresses his/her viewpoints while talking. Those viewpoints may be liked by us or may not be liked by us. However, we support their viewpoints if we like or contradict with some examples softly or vehemently. I feel talking is one of the activities everyone should practice to convince others to hear us with mindfulness and acceptance. Diplomacy is very much essential to achieve this talent. Most of us are good at it and let us keep it up.