NARA'S NOTEPAD
VOLUME 8
APRIL 2012
NUMBER 4
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MEMO FROM NARA
‘Abnormality’ means departure from the norm. What is normal for one
person is sometimes abnormal for another person. The so-called ‘norm’ is
determined by a group of people like the society. The ‘norm’ may differ from
one individual to another individual or one society to another society. Many a
time anyone can notice abnormality in behavior, activity, conversation, style
and health in a group of people. In other words, everyone can not behave, act
or converse in the normal manner. There will be always deviations from the
normal activity. It is a known fact. But still we know that abnormal people are
not the majority in a disciplined society. If we take health and fitness for
example, abnormality is caused by physical and mental diseases. Such
abnormalities are brought down by medical doctors. Someone misbehaves in a
public place is considered to be an abnormal person.
Nobel Prize winners, National award
holders and billionaires are also abnormal people. Abnormal people, activities,
structures, gadgets always make news because they rarely happen. Hence
abnormality is a rare affair in our society. Good abnormalities have to be
admitted because of their beneficial aspect, at the same time we need to
discourage the bad abnormalities because they are injurious to the welfare of
our society.
Abnormality is a term used
extensively in the science of psychology. A mad man/woman is an abnormal
person. Understanding the cause of madness is the job of a psychologist who
tries to capture the real reason for the madness and apply his knowledge and
experience to bring back the abnormal person to normality. So is the case with
all diseased persons. In fact, medical science serves the society to bring down
the number of abnormal people as for as health is concerned.
Therefore be normal by controlling
some of your desires or be abnormal to achieve some of the unachieved goals.
But never be a ‘bad’ abnormal person at all.
JUST TO LAUGH...
The
Titanic was sinking.
An
Englishman asked a Frenchman: “How far is the land?”
Frenchman:
“2 kilometers.”
Englishman:
“Now, which direction?”
Frenchman:
“Downwards.”
TO QUOTE...
There are
two ways to slide easily through life: to believe everything or to doubt
everything, both ways save us from thinking.
– Alfred Korzybski
We make a
living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give. – Norman MacFinan
PRINCIPLES OF BARGAINING
Its
aim is to reach a wise
outcome efficiently and amicably; and this requires a reasoned approach where
you neither apply, not yield, to pressure. Instead, you yield, to the force of
the argument and the evidence rather than the forcefulness of the person who is
presenting the evidence. You reason, and you are open to the reasons offered by
other; but you avoid, if possible, any ego-centric attachment to the argument.
As a result, it is not a question of my reasons versus your reasons, or my
position versus your position. Instead, we both of us simply explore the
arguments and evidence – with an open mind and without taking sides.
In
other words, the
principled bargainer tries to avoid an adversarial approach and attempts to
reach a result that is independent of the will-power of the parties concerned.
He sees himself as a problem-solver rather than an adversary or a friend; and
he attempts to be ‘hard’ on the problem yet ‘soft’ on the people in order to
avoid personal antagonism.
So
often, when we
disagree about anything, we start to talk and think in terms of my arguments rather than the arguments. Similarly, we tend to
polarize around my position – as
supported by my arguments. In no time
at all we are likely to find that the opponent has become equally entrenched
into his position and we are both
stuck. We freeze our options into just two: either my way or your way; my
position or yours; I win or you win. As soon as we move into this polarization
of options we become defensive and resistant to any of the arguments, insights or
ideas of our opponent. We might secretly recognize that much of what they say
is of value, but we will never admit this to them because this will seem to
imply that we are giving way and in danger of losing. – Alex
Howard
PRINCIPLES OF POPULARITY
1.
Popular
people,
throughout the world, tend to be cheerful and friendly. They take a genuine
interest in others; they are helpful and kind; interesting and amusing.
Unpopular people, on the other hand, are gloomy and hostile; boastful and
mainly interested in themselves. They try to get others to do things for them
rather than offer very much to others.
2. Some individuals may be popular because
of their position as well as their
personality. They are able to offer tangible help of one kind or another.
3. Physically attractive individuals, of either sex, tend to
be more popular. To some extent obviously, physical attractiveness is something
we are born with, or without, as the case may be.
4. We are more likely to be popular if we know how to
provide people with appropriate rewards. Many of these are non-verbal: for
example, smiling, looking, touching, and using a friendly tone of voice.
5. Intimacy can be rewarding (and
not just physical intimacy): for example; we tend to find it rewarding when
people share good news with us and disclose intimate thoughts and feelings.
6. Emotional and material support is rewarding. And not
surprisingly we tend to be more favorably disposed towards people who support
and reward us than we are with those who try to undermine, threaten or punish
us!
- Alex Howard
TOP TEN ATTRIBUTES OF A PROFESSIONAL
1.
Integrity.
2.
Commitment
and ownership.
3.
Action
orientation and goal seeking.
4.
Continuous
learning.
5.
Professional
knowledge / skills.
6.
Communication.
7.
Planning,
organizing and punctuality.
8.
Quality
of work.
9.
A
positive attitude, approachability and responsiveness.
10.
Being
an inspiring reference to others; thought leadership.
-
Subroto Bagchi
VITAMIN D
Vitamin D is a fat-soluble prohormone that
can be obtained from foods—either the few foods in which it is naturally
present, such as fish, egg, mushroom or fortified foods—as well as from dietary
supplements. It is also produced endogenously when ultraviolet rays from the
sun react with 7-dehydrocholesterol in the skin, converting it into the
vitamin. Vitamin D has a variety of actions in the body. It binds to the
vitamin D receptor (VDR), which then binds to the retinoid X receptor (RXR) and
activates the expression of numerous genes. Through this mechanism, vitamin D
promotes calcium absorption in the gut and helps maintain calcium and phosphate
levels to promote healthy bones. It also helps regulate genes involved in cell
growth, neuromuscular and immune function, and reduction of inflammation.
Accordingly, vitamin D deficiency has been linked with a wide range of
diseases.
LINES I LIKED
Ø Hope brings
answers, solutions and new possibilities.
Ø Nothing
changes till we do.
Ø Stay away
from people who love to blame everyone and everything.
Ø Always, be
careful of the company you keep.
Ø Remember
the good things in your life, think of the ones you love, and let the memory
fill you.
Respect
is earned only by giving it away!
Meet
you next month – May, 2012
Prof.
A. Narayanan, Ph. D., FISPP
Ph :
0422 2423017 Mobile : 98422 42301
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MEMO FROM NARA
Money is essential for everybody to buy products and services which are the basic requirements of human beings. Products such as food, medicine, dress, shelter, cosmetics, vehicles and the like have to be produced continuously to meet the demand of all of us. Products produced at different levels need safety standards. Each product we buy and use should be safe and good for human health. Scientific laboratories test the safety of each and every product before put in the market. In fact, we believe in it blindly and buy and use by paying money. Any product produced and not sold for a long time loses its values and should be destroyed. For example, all medicines have ‘expiry date’ beyond which the medicine loses its validity. Thus every product is produced with ultimate care for human and even for animal use. Professionals trained in the production of products are supposed to look after all safety aspects. Thus the products are supposed to look after all safety aspects. Thus the products are believed and bought by people. If any mistake committed knowingly or unknowingly at any stage of the production process, will cause a flutter in the society and the product loses its value in the market. Therefore, products as products nicely packed and kept in super-markets have undergone stringent scrutiny to satisfy the customers.
Services we get like transportation, communication, hotels, restaurants, banks etc. are also essential for all of us. The fast life we live today requires invariably services offered by others at any time and any place what we have to have is money that can buy services. Best services are costly and bad services are cheaper. All types of services are available in the third world. The choice of service is wide to choose in these countries, whereas in the developed and rich countries the choice is much limited. People are happy to get best services all the time. If you think of the services you get every day and list out at the end of the day, you will wonder how many services you require every day. Some of the services may be free and some others are to be paid. To quote an example, a coffee or food prepared by your mother or wife and served at appropriate time is a free service. They take care of the preparation to make a tasty and safe item like a cup of coffee and serve us with love and affection. It is a free service, as long as we realize the significance of such services.
Paid services are also carefully offered. We can call a taxi anywhere at any time. We can call a friend or relative who live in the far off places – anywhere in the world – anytime from anywhere through a mobile phone. We can send messages too. These services work in a wonderful way to all of our surprise. In fact, we need money to make use of these services. There is big competition in providing such services. In transportation, we find a number of companies run airlines, and vehicles. In transportation, we find a number of services to tourists. Think of services, the list goes on and on.
We live in a world of products and services – all paid and some free. So money is the primary requirement to avail products and services. These two items make our life more comfortable and make the world a comfort zone to live in. the big choice in products and services helps us to choose the type we want taking into consideration the amount of money at our disposal. One has to decide what type of product or service one wants. Life goes on with this concept of products and services. Also every one of us is involved in producing products and offering services – free or paid. At the same time we are the consumers of the products and services offered. Indeed an interesting phenomenon of our human society. You may spare sometime during your relaxation to think about the products and services.
TO QUOTE...
When we are no longer able to change a situation – we are challenged to change ourselves – Viktor Frankl.
TIPS FOR WEIGHT LOSS
These general tips will help you learn to adapt your thoughts to healthy weight loss.
1. Be patient. Losing weight in any kind of healthy way is going to take time. Give yourself a break and relax, and the weight will come off.
2. Don’t stress. Stressing about weight loss will likely only make it harder to lose.
3. Be realistic. Setting unrealistic goals for your weight loss isn’t healthy for your body or mind. Get your mind set on more realistic accomplishments and you’ll be happier and healthier.
4. Create a routine. Success with any weight loss program requires creating a routine and sticking to it in what you eat, when you work out and how you think about your progress.
5. Listen to your body. It will tell you when you aren’t eating enough, you’re eating too much, or you’re pushing yourself too hard.
6. Use your imagination. Our imaginations are powerful things and you can use yours to picture your body and your life the way you really want it to be.
7. Take it slow. You cannot expect to change your mindset or your body overnight. Take the process slow and steady for the best results.
8. Be honest with yourself. Being honest might be more difficult or more painful, but you cannot move forward in changing your body or how you think about it without facing some hard truths about yourself.
9. Find out what you truly want. The reality is that you might not be ready to lose weight or commit yourself to the work that it takes. Find out what you truly want in your life. Knowing that you really, really want to lose weight can be a huge factor in motivating you.
1. Be patient. Losing weight in any kind of healthy way is going to take time. Give yourself a break and relax, and the weight will come off.
2. Don’t stress. Stressing about weight loss will likely only make it harder to lose.
3. Be realistic. Setting unrealistic goals for your weight loss isn’t healthy for your body or mind. Get your mind set on more realistic accomplishments and you’ll be happier and healthier.
4. Create a routine. Success with any weight loss program requires creating a routine and sticking to it in what you eat, when you work out and how you think about your progress.
5. Listen to your body. It will tell you when you aren’t eating enough, you’re eating too much, or you’re pushing yourself too hard.
6. Use your imagination. Our imaginations are powerful things and you can use yours to picture your body and your life the way you really want it to be.
7. Take it slow. You cannot expect to change your mindset or your body overnight. Take the process slow and steady for the best results.
8. Be honest with yourself. Being honest might be more difficult or more painful, but you cannot move forward in changing your body or how you think about it without facing some hard truths about yourself.
9. Find out what you truly want. The reality is that you might not be ready to lose weight or commit yourself to the work that it takes. Find out what you truly want in your life. Knowing that you really, really want to lose weight can be a huge factor in motivating you.
BODY LANGUAGE FOR CONFIDENCE
1. Avoid your pockets
Keep your hands out of your pockets. We put our hands in our pockets when we’re uncomfortable or unsure of ourselves. Instinctually we tend to hide our hands when we’re nervous; keeping your hands out in the open indicates confidence and shows people you have nothing to hide.
2. Don’t fidget
Fidgeting (restlessness) is a clear sign of nervousness. A man who can’t keep still, is a man who is worried, tense and certainly not confident. Your hands can be your worst enemies — fight to keep them still and steady.
3. Keep your eyes forward
When you’re walking anywhere by yourself, it often feels natural to lower your head slightly and watch your step, but this posture communicates to others that you don’t want to engage in conversation or interact. Keep your chin up and your eyes forward, even when you’re walking down the street by yourself.
4. Stand up straight with your shoulders back
Concentrate on pushing your shoulders back slightly when standing and walking. That one simple motion does wonders for your posture. Try it in front of the mirror—you’ll be surprised how much more confident it makes you look.
5. Take wide steps
A confident man will never be described as “scurrying,” “creeping” or “sneaking,” so pay attention to the way you walk. If you want to show confidence with body language you want to take large steps.
6. Firm handshakes
Grip the other person’s hand firmly and confidently. If shaking hands with someone you’ve already met, you might even consider the two-hand grab: placing your free hand on the other person’s elbow adds warmth and enthusiasm to the handshake.
7. Proper grooming
Grooming is an essential component of communicating confidence through body language.
8. Smile
Confident people smile because they have nothing to worry about. Try this as an experiment: smile at someone as you pass them on the street or walking around the office. Chances are good that they’ll smile back.
9. Don’t cross your arms when socializing
Crossing your arms is a protective posture. We do it when we’re cold, nervous or on guard. Your job is to look likeable, open and confident. So relax a little and keep your arms uncrossed.
10. Use contact to show appreciation
The pat on the back is a lost art. Don’t be afraid to pat a buddy or a colleague on the back when he or she delivers a perfectly timed punch line or nails the big presentation.
JUST TO LAUGH...
Teacher: Name an animal which lives in land and water.
Student: Frog.
Teacher: Good! Now name three such animals.
Student: Frog’s mom, frog’s dad and his son.
Father: I’m a proud father. My son is in Medical College.
Friend: What is he studying?
Father: He’s not studying, they are studying him!
POSITIVE WAY
The positive way to cope with a problem is:
1. To become aware of it. In so doing, examine all the possibilities of overcoming it.
2. To consider the problem as a challenge.
3. To enjoy or have fun with the problem, and toss it around till a solution is found.
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