NARA'S NOTEPAD
VOLUME 9
DECEMBER 2013
NUMBER 12
Saturday, November 30, 2013
MEMO FROM NARA...
Every short story ends with
a moral. Even a novel is written to illustrate explicitly the truth of human
life. The great Epics like Ramayana and
Mahabarata are known to teach good
things of life. People know that very well, but unfortunately following those
good things is not happening. Elders always remind the young people the
importance of those famous stories and morals. But everyone listens to those
stories and do not try to follow the teachings. Therefore we see anarchy in our
society which is highly divided as rich and poor.
Religion is one that divided
the people of the World as Christians, Muslims, Hindus, Sikhs and Buddhists.
Such divisions have created a kind of hatred among them. All these religions
tell stories in order to change the minds of people towards love and affection.
Only a minority of the population like to follow the teachings and lead a
civilized and peaceful life. But majority of human beings indulge in all types
of unacceptable habits and behaviours.
Children in schools learn from
their teachers many stories with high moral values. They repeat them to remind
the morals. But unfortunately those morals remain only as morals not practiced.
The reason is quite obvious. In our society there are all kinds of people with
diverse background. To cope up with such people and their children is a major
problem. However many children are transformed at school level, they fall a
prey to the surroundings and the people live in those surroundings. How to
change it? Obviously it is very difficult because the disparity between such
groups of people is far wide. Parents are responsible to bring up the children
with good morals and values. But if the parents themselves are not following
the moral values, then how the children will change in spite of good school
education. It is a big problem the teachers face today. The teachers always
instruct the parents to take care of their wards to follow what they taught in
the class room. Unless parents are careful to transform their children as good
citizens of the world it becomes very difficult for anyone to solve the problem
of unrest in the world.
Every day we come across
cruel happenings all over the world. Unimaginable, uncivilized, shocking events
are seen everywhere. How to control it and to create a social order in the
future? Sociologists are working on various issues. They should consider the
social behaviours of people for a peaceful life on our planet. Instead of
preaching high ideals, it is better to teach how to lead a simple life with
high thinking. Those who are involved in transforming society through
spirituality and religious piousness should concentrate on social order and
creation of a better society for the future.
SPONSORS
NARA’S NOTEPAD thank
Dr. V.V. Ramamurthy, Principal Scientist (Entomology)
and National Coordinator, IARI, New Delhi
for
sponsoring Dec. 2013, Jan. and Feb. 2014 issues.
AND
Dr. A. Appa Rao, Former Vice-Chancellor of
Acharya N. G. Ranga Agricultural University, Hyderabad
for
sponsoring March 2014 to Dec. 2014 issues.
BOOST YOUR BRAIN POWER...
One of the best ways to boost your
intelligence is to read more! You can read faster (and thus consume more
knowledge) by getting your speech mechanism out of the equation. So give your
mouth something to do, like eating, humming, or chewing gum to get through that
stuff quickly. Then, take some time to absorb and reflect on what you read to
keep it in your memory.
The more you can contribute to a
conversation, a meeting, or other discourse, the smarter you'll come off. Even
if it means admitting ignorance or asking questions, you'll still look better
than if you stay silent—and you might actually learn something in the process.
When
engaged in a heated discussion with your friends, you're bound to stumble upon
a few holes in your knowledge. It's okay to admit when you don't know something,
but if you're feeling particularly self-conscious and want to keep up the
appearance of intelligence, the key is emphasizing what you do know. If you're
in an argument, don't stress disagreement so much as agreement—that way, you
aren't straying away from things you know about.
HAPPINESS IS...
v A good talk and a cup of
coffee with the person you love.
v Standing on the balcony
sipping tea.
v A long walk with a
friend.
v A fresh new haircut.
v A window seat on a bus.
v Talking to your best
friend for hours.
v A cool breeze on a
summer night.
v Letting go and never
looking back.
v A family reunion after
years.
STEPS TO STOP A SELFISH PERSON FROM HURTING YOU...
1 Realization. This is the hardest step, and as much as this
friend or lover means to you, you need to ask yourself if you’re being used in
the relationship. If you feel like you’re doing all the giving while the other
person only takes, big chances are, you’re being used in the relationship.
Learn to see the signs and more importantly, learn to accept it when you think
you’re being used.
2 Detachment. If you’re not happy in a relationship, you’d
definitely feel miserable all the time. It’s not easy to break away from a selfish
person, especially when they mean so much to you. Confronting or breaking away
won’t help you, because this selfish person may not care whether you exist and
that would hurt you more. Instead, learn to detach yourself slowly, a little
more with each passing day.
3 Retain your personality. Don’t change overnight. If
you change overnight, your selfish mate may walk away from you the next morning
and that would hurt you more and leave you feeling weaker. On the other hand,
this selfish person may realize that you’re starting to stand up for yourself
and in the fear of losing you, they may start to show more affection to you
just to change you back to the meek old self. Don’t fall for that ploy.
4 Replicate their behaviour. When you feel like you have the
strength to stand up for yourself and face the situation, let your selfish
lover or friend see themselves in you. Replicate their behaviour, and start
behaving just like they do. It’s time they get a taste of their own medicine.
By doing this, it would help you in two ways. It will help you get back at this
selfish person. And at the same time, it will help you see for yourself how you
were being manipulated by this person.
5 Drift
away. Selfish people never change. They just look for someone to use, and
quite frankly, they can’t help it themselves. So if you’re in a relationship
with a selfish someone, don’t try to change them. It will never work. Get back
at them by behaving just like how they would behave with you, and whenever you
feel like you’ve got your vengeance and have the strength to move, walk away
for good.
JUST TO LAUGH...
The bride kissed her father and placed something in
his hand. Everyone in the room was wondering what was given to the father by
the bride.
The father could feel the suspense in the air and all eyes were on him to divulge the secret and say something.
So he announced "Ladies and Gentlemen today is the luckiest day of my life." Then he raised his hands with what his daughter gave him and continued.....
The father could feel the suspense in the air and all eyes were on him to divulge the secret and say something.
So he announced "Ladies and Gentlemen today is the luckiest day of my life." Then he raised his hands with what his daughter gave him and continued.....
My daughter finally, finally returned my Credit card
to me." The whole audience including the priest erupted in laughter... all
except... the poor Groom!!
Man: Is there any medicine for long life?
Doctor:
Get married.Man: Will it help?
Doctor: No, it’ll avoid such thoughts…
THE TEN COMMANDMENTS...
1.
Do not feel
absolutely certain of anything.
2.
Do not think it
worthwhile to proceed by concealing evidence, for the evidence is sure to come
to light.
3.
Never try to
discourage thinking for you are sure to succeed.
4.
When you meet with
opposition, even if it should be from your husband or your children endeavour
to overcome it by argument and not by authority.
5.
Have respect for
the authority of others, for there are always contrary authorities to be found.
6.
Do not use power
to suppress opinions you think pernicious, for if you do the opinions will
suppress you.
7.
Do not fear to be
eccentric in opinion, for every opinion now accepted was once eccentric.
8.
Find more pleasure
in intelligent dissent than in passive agreement, for, if you value
intelligence as you should, the former implies a deeper agreement than the
latter.
9.
Be scrupulously
truthful, even if the truth is inconvenient, for it is more inconvenient when
you try to conceal it.
10.
Do not feel
envious of the happiness of those who live in a fool’s paradise, for only a fool
will think that it is happiness.
Eliminate
your fear of discomfort!
Meet you
next month – January, 2014
Professor
A. Narayanan, Ph. D., FISPP
Ph : 0422 2423017 Mobile : 098422 42301
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