Blaming others is one of the best hobbies for some. They are very good
at it especially when they are upset or angry. In fact, we fail to find reason
for it. We try to protect ourselves putting the blame on others. This is a
universal human nature. Once we are free from upset or anger, then some of us
do realise our mistakes and ask pardon from others. It is one of the bad sides
of our character that is common to both genders.
Why do we do this? Is there any reason for it? Self-interest may be the
main reason. Even we are not upset or angry we do find fault with others and
blame them. We do it individually as well as in a group. Politicians are
experts in blaming others. We often find political parties and party leaders
quarrel by blaming each other every day. The opposition parties blame the
ruling party in the name of helping the common man (aam admi). It is a common sight and entertainment for the common
man!
When someone or a team is defeated either in sports, election or any
other competition, he or she or a team blames the opponent or the referee or
the election officer. It becomes the immediate reaction of these people and
later they bow for reason, rules and proofs. Others are responsible for the
blame in some cases. Therefore blaming others at times helps to bring out the
truth. Protest is in fact, the right of everyone, but blaming others
unreasonably is not desirable. Blaming others in their back is a custom people
do follow so that they can easily escape. But it backfires when someone conveys
the message to the concerned. It happens most of the time.
However, people try to escape by hiding while blaming others. No
sensible person blames others without reason. If someone misbehaves, everyone
is tempted to blame him or her. So in a social set up one has to learn how to
behave and adjust with others. Understanding others is an art. So, one has to
learn this art. It is a delicate affair. If we fail to handle it, then it leads
to misunderstanding causing a great damage to relationship.
Building relationship and connecting people are essential for everyone
who likes to live in a society harmoniously. Patience is one of the aspects we
need to develop for tolerating the viewpoints of others we may like or we may
not. Still it is better to listen and try to understand others’ views on a
particular subject. Short sighted decisions are being taken often by the
quickies. Those decisions may have adverse consequences.
Therefore, it would be better to wait, think and discuss before arriving
at a decision. Blaming people for such quick decisions may not help once the
decision is taken. If it is possible to reverse the decision for correction, we
can avoid the blaming part. Blaming in
fact is an irresponsible act. Although we know its effects, we do blame others
to create unhappiness in the minds of people.
Why we need to do that? Instead, we may try to understand the person and
correct him by teaching the proper ways and means. That would be a sensible
action rather than going on blaming him. I feel that people should have
tolerance and treat people as one like him or her. Such feelings will certainly improve the character of human beings.
Are we not thinking of this view? Are we not supporting this view?
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