1. First,
don’t isolate yourself – When you’re feeling lonely it is hard to go out
and be with others who seem to be OK, and don’t really notice how lonely you
feel. But putting up a wall and withdrawing from your friends will only
intensify that sense of loneliness, and will further undermine your
self-esteem.
2. Second, keep yourself busy – Do things
that you normally enjoy with others. For example, listening to a band or maybe
going to watch a game … or you could always try something that’s new, but
interests you! That would allow you to connect in a non-threatening way … as it
takes the focus off talking, and off you.
3. Third, be kind to yourself - It’s
likely that you regularly beat yourself up, criticize yourself and are
unrealistic in the kinds of expectations that you have for yourself. So what,
if it goes wrong? You can always try again – just learn what you can from the
experience. And notice your successes and the times when it goes well. It’s
likely that this happens a lot more than you think!
4. Fourth, recognize that we ALL battle
loneliness at times - You’re not some kind of freak – it’s actually quite
normal. It is something we’ve all known and understand.
5. Fifth,
talk to someone you like and trust – It can really help to talk about your
feelings with a family member, a friend or counsellor. It relieves some of the
painful sense of isolation – and help to get your life back in perspective
again.
