NARA'S NOTEPAD
VOLUME 10
JUNE 2014
NUMBER 6
Saturday, May 31, 2014
MEMO FROM NARA...
Blaming others is one of the best hobbies for some. They are very good
at it especially when they are upset or angry. In fact, we fail to find reason
for it. We try to protect ourselves putting the blame on others. This is a
universal human nature. Once we are free from upset or anger, then some of us
do realise our mistakes and ask pardon from others. It is one of the bad sides
of our character that is common to both genders.
Why do we do this? Is there any reason for it? Self-interest may be the
main reason. Even we are not upset or angry we do find fault with others and
blame them. We do it individually as well as in a group. Politicians are
experts in blaming others. We often find political parties and party leaders
quarrel by blaming each other every day. The opposition parties blame the
ruling party in the name of helping the common man (aam admi). It is a common sight and entertainment for the common
man!
When someone or a team is defeated either in sports, election or any
other competition, he or she or a team blames the opponent or the referee or
the election officer. It becomes the immediate reaction of these people and
later they bow for reason, rules and proofs. Others are responsible for the
blame in some cases. Therefore blaming others at times helps to bring out the
truth. Protest is in fact, the right of everyone, but blaming others
unreasonably is not desirable. Blaming others in their back is a custom people
do follow so that they can easily escape. But it backfires when someone conveys
the message to the concerned. It happens most of the time.
However, people try to escape by hiding while blaming others. No
sensible person blames others without reason. If someone misbehaves, everyone
is tempted to blame him or her. So in a social set up one has to learn how to
behave and adjust with others. Understanding others is an art. So, one has to
learn this art. It is a delicate affair. If we fail to handle it, then it leads
to misunderstanding causing a great damage to relationship.
Building relationship and connecting people are essential for everyone
who likes to live in a society harmoniously. Patience is one of the aspects we
need to develop for tolerating the viewpoints of others we may like or we may
not. Still it is better to listen and try to understand others’ views on a
particular subject. Short sighted decisions are being taken often by the
quickies. Those decisions may have adverse consequences.
Therefore, it would be better to wait, think and discuss before arriving
at a decision. Blaming people for such quick decisions may not help once the
decision is taken. If it is possible to reverse the decision for correction, we
can avoid the blaming part. Blaming in
fact is an irresponsible act. Although we know its effects, we do blame others
to create unhappiness in the minds of people.
Why we need to do that? Instead, we may try to understand the person and
correct him by teaching the proper ways and means. That would be a sensible
action rather than going on blaming him. I feel that people should have
tolerance and treat people as one like him or her. Such feelings will certainly improve the character of human beings.
Are we not thinking of this view? Are we not supporting this view?
TIPS FOR BETTER HEALTH...
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1. Drink a lot of water.
2. Eat your breakfast like a king,
lunch like princes and dinner like beggars.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees
and plants and less food made in factories.
4. Live your life according to the TEE
people: Truth, Empathy, and Energy.
5. Make time for contemplation and/or
prayer.
6. Involve more game playing in your
life.
7. Read more books than you read last
year.
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 min.
a day.
9. Invest at least 7 h of sleep every
in the night.
10. Take 10 – 30 min. to walk
somewhere each day. Smile while you walk.
SOLITUDE
1. Solitude is a positive state.
2. It is where we are perfectly happy to be by ourselves and relish and
enjoy our own company.
3. Solitude can help us get in touch with, or engage with, our true
self. It allows us to reflect on ourselves, others our life and our future.
4. Often Solitude is a springboard to greater self-awareness.
5. Solitude is something that restores and builds us up.
6. Solitude grounds us in who we are – and that enables us to reach out
and give to others.
TO QUOTE...
Change the way you look at things and
the things you look at change. – Wayne
Dyer
It is one of the blessings of old
friends that you can afford to be stupid with them. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Nowadays people know the price of
everything and the value of nothing. – Oscar
Wilde
JUST TO LAUGH...
A guy is reading
the newspaper when his wife walks up behind him and smacks him on the back of
the head with a frying pan.
“Ouch! What was that for?” he cries. She says, “I found a piece of paper
in your pocket with ‘Miranda’ written.
He says, “Jeez, Honey, remember last week I went to the track?”
‘Miranda’ was the name of the horse I bet on.” She shrugs and walks away. Three
days later, when he’s reading the paper, she walks up behind him and smacks him
on the back of the head again with the frying pan. “What was that for?” he asks, rubbing his
head. “Your horse called, “she answers.
A young child
walked up to her mother and stared at her hair. As mother scrubbed the dishes,
the girl cleared her throat and sweetly asked; “Why do you have some grey
strands in your hair?”
The mother paused and looked at her daughter. “Every time you disobey I
get one strand of grey hair. If you want me to stay pretty, you better obey.”
The mother returned to her tasks for washing dishes. The little girl stood
there thinking. She cleared her throat again. “Mother?” she sweetly asked
again. “Yes?” Her mother replied. “Why is grandma’s hair all grey?”
BEST FEELINGS IN THE WORLD
v Feeling important and precious to someone.
v Succeeding in something you thought you
couldn’t.
v Falling asleep on your lover’s chest.
v Helping someone in need.
v Getting good grades.
v Making your parents proud.
v Being warm and cosy when it’s cold outside.
v Receiving a text saying “I miss you.”
v Watching outside the window when it’s raining
while reading a book and drinking hot tea.
v Waking up in the middle of the night and
realizing you still have hours to sleep.
THINKING OUTSIDE THE BOX...
The "box" is the normal way of doing things and looking at things. It is the assumptions that almost everyone involved is making. The best way to start thinking out of the box then, is to identify and challenge all the assumptions that make up thinking inside the box. For example, one of the major liquor brands was faltering years ago, and they couldn't seem to boost their sales. Promotions, lowering the price, getting better shelf placement - these were the "in the box" solutions. Then someone challenged the assumptions, by asking "What if we stopped the promotions and just raised the price?" The price was raised as an experiment, and sales soon doubled. As it turns out, some types of liquor are bought quite often as gifts. Buyers don't want to buy the most expensive one, but they also don't want to seem cheap, so they won't buy products that don't cost enough. Now imagine what happens to your profit margins when you raise the price and double the sales. That's the power of thinking outside of the box.
SPONSOR
NARA’S NOTEPAD thank
Late Dr. A. Appa Rao*, Former Vice-Chancellor
Acharya N. G.
Ranga Agricultural University, Hyderabad for
sponsoring March 2014 to Dec. 2014 issues.
*Dr A. Appa
Rao passed away on 30 April 2014.
Be
specific in asking for what you want!
Meet you
next month – July, 2014
Professor
A. Narayanan, Ph. D., FISPP
Ph : 0422 2423017
Mobile : 098422 42301
Friday, May 2, 2014
MEMO FROM NARA...
Some of us think that knowledge is from reading research reports and
books – nowadays from internet search engines like ‘Google.’ But the real
knowledge is from watching and experiencing the real life which is considered
to be the true laws of behaviour in action. We used to refer the former one as
‘bookish knowledge’ which is available to only a fraction of the human
population. Such knowledge has to be tested before we put to use. At the same
time the knowledge gained from ordinary people – may be the majority of human
population – who have had real life experience, are indeed wonderful sources of
knowledge because such knowledge is already tested.
Knowledgeable people have to put their knowledge in appropriate use.
Those who fail to do so are not going up in the ladder of success. They always
remained where they were. On the other hand, we do see people who get into hard
life and experience all facets are respected and honoured by one and all. They
may be called as ‘practical person.’ We can get the meaningful experience, the
wisdom and insight from such practical ordinary persons.
Bookish knowledge provides us enormous opportunities to progress and
achieve great things in life only when it is practiced. In order to practice
those knowledge, we have to focus and concentrate which is often more difficult
for many. So they remain with the bookish knowledge only, not attempting to go
further. However, some of them cross this barrier and come out with flying
colours. We also see such geniuses in our life-time. Scientists, doctors,
engineers, technocrats have contributed a lot for the humanity. Whatever comfort
we enjoy today is because of those knowledgeable persons.
SPONSOR
NARA’S NOTEPAD thank
Dr. A. Appa Rao, Former Vice-Chancellor
Acharya N. G.
Ranga Agricultural University, Hyderabad
for
sponsoring
March 2014 to
Dec. 2014 issues.
MOTIVATION
MOTIVATION: Motivation is what
drives you to perform well. What drives an individual? Most definitely, it
would be the goal that he/she has set for self to achieve. Motivation is the
key to any successful management role. Again, motivation could be internal or
external. However, what comes from within really makes the difference.
Motivation is not about facts but about being able to address feelings.
GET MORE OUT OF LIFE
1. Stop resisting change and see it as constant in life.
2. Learn to enjoy, and value, solitude.
3. Never forget that friendship is a gift, not a possession.
4. Things are rarely as bad as they seem at first.
5. Do your most important tasks first thing in the morning.
6. Smiling seems to help with most things.
7. Schedule margin into your life – as something unexpected will often
change your plans.
8. QITP – Quit Taking It Personally.
9. Define what is necessary and say no to the rest.
10. Take a deep breath and wait before responding. Don’t react and say
something you’ll regret.
Let us leave behind all the
unfortunate things that happened in the past. For too long this fair land has
been bled by scarred and seared violence. It has been bled by the orgy of the
killings of human beings by human beings. Each death diminishes us. The past cannot
be rewritten. But we can write our common future with our collective,
cooperative efforts. – Atal Bihari Vajpayee at Kohima in 2003.
Everyone is my teacher. Some
I seek, some I subconsciously attract. Often I learn simply by observing
others. Some may be completely unaware that I’m learning from them, yet I bow
deeply in gratitude. – Eric Allan.
People often say that
motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend
it daily. – Zig Ziglar
AMUSING DEFINITIONS
Library: A place where the dead live.
Pessimism: The determination to see less than there is in
anything, and optimism is the ability to see more than there is in everything.
Pickpocket: A man who lives alone, but occasionally goes out in a
crowd for a little change.
Politician: A fellow who shakes your hand before the election and
shakes you after the election.
Snorer: A sound sleeper.
Successful man: One who can earn more than his wife can spend.
Tourist: A person who drives 1000 km to see some beautiful
scenery and litters the road all the way.
JUST TO LAUGH...
The lawyer was reading the late husband’s will. “Mrs.
Jones, your late husband left everything he had to the Home for Widows.” “But
what about me?” - Mrs. Jones asked
dejectedly. “You were all he had.”
A preacher dies, and when he gets to Heaven he sees
a New York cab driver who has more crowns. He says to an angel, “I don’t get
it, I devoted my whole life to my congregation.” The angel says, “We reward
results. Did your congregations always pay attention when you gave a sermon?”
The preacher says, “Once in a while someone fell asleep.” The angel says,
“Right. And when people rode in this guy’s taxi, they not only stayed awake,
but they usually prayed!”
An intelligent wife is the one who makes sure, she
spends so much that her husband can’t afford another one.”
WHITE TEA...
White tea is derived from the
first flush buds grown only in the Fukien Province of China, but now
manufactured in India and Sri Lanka, among other places. While the tea is not
white in colour, it has got its name due to the silver-coloured, white hair-like
picked tea bud. The beverage is pale yellow in colour. It is one of the most
expensive teas in the world. The reason for it exorbitant rate is because white
tea is plucked in a very short time. White tea is produced from unopened buds
of tea shoots. Those buds are withered and dried under special conditions. It
is produced in small quantities which is one of the reasons why it is very
expensive. Similar to green tea, white tea also has a lot of health benefits.
The benefits of this tea can be given to it’s flavonoids as they help in
various ways such as improving vascular health which further helps in the
prevention of heart diseases.
LINES I LIKED...
Ø Worrying never solved any problem.
Ø Keep your words few and carefully chosen.
Ø Fulfil your duties without complaining.
Ø Learn from ideas that are different from yours.
Ø Do not look for problems where there are none.
Ø You can’t always have your way every time.
Enjoy the
little things!
Meet you
next month – June, 2014
Professor
A. Narayanan, Ph. D., FISPP
Ph : 0422 2423017
Mobile : 098422 42301
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