Saturday, October 31, 2015
There are innumerable extraordinary men and women in this world. Among the ordinary people we find such extraordinary ones in every walk of life. These extraordinary people are the special ones everyone appreciate and adore. Extraordinary people are found in sports, art, science, business, politics, judiciary, medicine and all other fields. Is it easy to become an extraordinary individual? I think it is difficult but one can become if one tries. In fact, it involves competition and comparison, winning and losing. To become extraordinary one has to compete and win. It involves hard work, consistent effort and determination. No one is born as extraordinary! Everyone or anyone can develop this art of extraordinariness provided he or she has a will. Such a will generally come in the minds of young people.
In a class room we do find bright students and at the same time the dull ones also. In a sense both sets of people are extraordinary. Bright students understand the subject easily and score high marks in examinations whereas the dull ones fail to understand lessons. There lies the difference and the comparison between these two categories of people in fact, tells us the difference between ordinary and extraordinary people. Some say it is in the genes and others contradict and argue that circumstance play a role in making one ordinary or extraordinary. If someone does something everyone cannot do, it becomes extraordinary. Take for example cinema. Actors act and express their feelings according to the situation. We all express our feelings in everyday life, but to express it in action can be done by only extraordinary people like the actors. Here again we do find ordinary and extraordinary actors.
Life can be also extraordinary for all of us. But very few of us realize this. There are wonders and marvels in ordinary life – the joy of tasting a cup of tea of coffee early in the morning, the pleasure of talking to a pleasant friend, the way we see the things around us and many more such things. Many of us in fact enjoy such ordinary life with peace of mind.
At the same time life may be extraordinary for some who look not for simple things of life. They always look for competition, risk taking, innovation and intelligence. They do not mind failures but they try and try to reach the peak of extraordinariness. They make a name in the world. Even after their demise, generation of human beings remember them and quote their activities to promote more and more people in the area of extraordinariness. In this world most of us like to be extraordinary among a large number of ordinary people.
Kittu had a dream in which someone murdered him. Next day he closed his bank account. Do you why? Because the bank’s slogan was: We make your dreams come true!
The teacher told Kittu that TV cable is not good for kids, they don’t study. So Kittu got rid of it and installed a Dish.
A lady called Kittu for repairing door bell. Kittu doesn’t turn up for 4 days. Lady calls again. Kittu replies: ‘I’m coming daily since 4 days, I press the bell but no one comes out.
Titanic was sinking. An Englishman asked Kittu, “How far is land?” Kittu said 2 km. Englishman jumped into sea. Englishman now asked which direction (left or right?). Kittu said downwards.
1. First, recognise that not everyone is like you. We have different likes and dislikes, we want different things, and we all see people and the world in different ways. Hence, it is natural that sometimes people will be upset, offended, or react differently from what we expected. It’s not necessarily personal – it’s more a reflection of the fact that we all are different.
2. Try and leave your emotions aside and objective analyse the situation. Ask yourself: “Is this person’s reaction triggering something me?” It could be that you are over-reacting to a perceived rejection because of previous hurts, put downs and rejections. Alternatively, the other person’s reaction could be more related to what is going on in their life at the time (rather than being a personal rejection of you.)
3. Be alert to over-generalising and over-personalising. For example, look out for the tendency to think things like that “That means I’m a terrible person, and no-one likes me” or “I never do anything right. I always say and do the wrong thing. I’m always going to get it wrong and be rejected by everyone.”
4. Look for friendships and affirmation in other places. It’s wise to have a wide range of friends and acquaintances so that our self-image and self-esteem aren’t tied into how a few key people treat us, or react towards us.
5. Accept that snubs and rejections are part of life. We can’t please all of the people all of the time – we can only please some of the people some of the time. And while it’s wise to check to see if we display certain habits, traits or behaviors that often annoy others (and it is wise to work on changing those), at the end of the day we just have to be ourselves. We can’t spend our lives walking on egg shells, or trying to be someone we were never meant to be.