Saturday, July 30, 2011
Dumb people cannot talk; but others can talk. Talking is one of the fortunate virtues most of us got for expressing our thoughts and feelings. Talking needs proper words and tones. Soft talking is soothing for all of us. Rude talk is not liked by all. The topic one chooses to talk should be interesting to others. We usually talk liberally to our relatives and friends i.e. to the known persons. Since we know their attitudes and their likening we try to talk accordingly. Talking to new friends and strangers is an up-hill task for many of us. Shyness makes us to limit our talk. Without knowing the taste of the other person it is very difficult to express our views. Little by little it is possible to know the likes and dislikes of others and then talking to them becomes much easier.
Some of us are vociferous talkers in some familiar subjects like politics, business, education and sports. In fact, one can easily judge the depth of knowledge one possesses in these subjects from their talk. Forceful talking is considered to be the best because it mesmerize others and make them believe what is said. Talking becomes interesting when some jokes are inserted into it. ‘Take it easy’ talks are preferred among friends. Serious talks are taken seriously. Arguments on a particular topic lead to counter arguments. Talking for and against a controversial topic becomes a debate. Logic, reasons and evidences add more strength to our talk. Empty talk is not appreciated. Talking to an audience is invariably a monologue whereas talking to one or two individuals is a dialogue.
People question a statement if it not understood or untrue. Therefore, one has to be careful while talking. In fact, talking creates a wave in others mind. Some of the catchy words or sentences can stimulate them to think. Sometimes talking relieves our stress and tension. Laughing, talking, singing, shouting, crying, smiling and commenting elevates our mood and confidence.
Everyone expresses his/her viewpoints while talking. Those viewpoints may be liked by us or may not be liked by us. However, we support their viewpoints if we like or contradict with some examples softly or vehemently. I feel talking is one of the activities everyone should practice to convince others to hear us with mindfulness and acceptance. Diplomacy is very much essential to achieve this talent. Most of us are good at it and let us keep it up.
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Two hydrogen atoms met.
One says, ‘I ‘ve lost my electron.’
The other says ‘Are you sure?’
The first replies, ‘Yes, I am positive.’
Question: How do you keep a blonde busy for hours?
Answer: Write ‘Please turn over (PTO) on both sides of a paper.
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1. Make peace with your past so it doesn’t spoil your present.
2. What others think of you is none of your business.
3. Time heals almost everything. So give time sometime.
4. No one is the cause of your happiness but yourself.
5. Do not compare your life with others. You have no idea what their journey is about.
6. Stop thinking too much. It is all right not to know all the answers.
7. Smile! You do not own all the problems in the world.
v Getting rid of clothes we’ll never fit into again means accepting our current shape and level (or lack) of fitness.
v Getting rid of an expensive item we never use means admitting that we made a poor decision when we bought it.
v Getting rid of books and magazines we don’t have time to read means accepting that we will never have enough time or attention to explore every topic that’s of interest to us.
v Getting rid of possessions remaining after a loved one has died means coming to terms with our loss and grief.
(1) manipulativeness. "Machiavellians" are pragmatic liars who aren’t fearful or anxious. They are "scheming but not stupid." "In conversations, they tend to dominate, but they also seem relaxed, talented and confident."
(2) acting. Good actors make good liars; receptive audiences encourage confidence.
(3) expressiveness. Animated people create favorable first impressions, making liars seductive and their expressions distracting.
(4) physical attractiveness. Fair or unfair, pretty people are judged as being more honest than unattractive people.
(5) natural performers. These people can adapt to abrupt changes in the discourse with a convincing spontaneity.
(6) experience. Prior lying helps people manage familiar emotions, such as guilt and fear, which can “leak” behaviorally and tip off observers.
(7) confidence. Like anything else, believing in yourself is half the battle; you’ve got to believe in your ability to deceive others.
(8) emotional camouflage. Liars "mask their stark inclination to show the emotional expressions they truly feel" by feigning the opposite effect.
(9) eloquence. Eloquent speakers confound listeners with word play and buy extra time to ponder a plausible answer by giving long-winded responses.
(10) well-preparedness. This minimizes fabrication on the spot, which is vulnerable to detection.
(11) unverifiable responding. Concealing information ("I honestly don’t remember") is preferable to a constructed lie because it cannot be disconfirmed.
(12) information frugality. Saying as little as possible in response to pointed questions makes it all the more difficult to confirm or disconfirm details.
(13) original thinking. Even meticulous liars can be thrown by the unexpected, so the ability to give original, convincing, non-scripted responses comes in handy.
(14) rapid thinking. Delays and verbal fillers ("ums" and "ahs") signal deception, so good liars are quick-witted, thinking fast on their feet.
(15) intelligence. Intelligence enables an efficient shouldering of the “cognitive load” imposed by lying, since there are many complex, simultaneously occurring demands associated with monitoring one’s own deceptiveness.
(16) good memory. Interrogators’ ears will prick at inconsistencies. A good memory allows a liar to remember details without tripping in their own fibs.
(17) truth adherence. Lies that "bend the truth" are generally more convincing, and require less cognitive effort, than those that involve fabricating an entire story.
(18) decoding. The ability to detect suspicion in the listener allows the liar to make the necessary adjustments, borrowing from strategies in the preceding skill set. – Jesse Bering
v Home is where heart is.
v Between two evils, I always pick the one I never tried before.
v There is no shortage of grievances, real or imaginary, in the world we live in.
v Even a scolding from a wise person is valued, while praise from a foolish person is of no relevance.
v Words and actions become valuable because of the one who speaks them or perform them.
v There are two kinds of people: those who are valued because of the things they possess, and those who add value to things.
v Success is a shallow way to define happiness.
Cloud computing means that people can have access to their digital files and software on the go, with little more needed to access them than simple input and output devices as well as an internet connection. Amazon has launched two new products. Cloud Drive and Cloud Player; which allow users to tap cloud computing and store all their music and video files on a network of remote storage facilities. While such bold new products ensure ease and affordability for current users, they also herald a future for any one rich or poor. The poor will be the greatest long term beneficiaries of cloud computing because it eliminates the cost barriers to accessing the digital age. People can opt to use the most basic hardware, amounting to little more than a key board and screen.
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