Monday, December 31, 2018
OMG – Oh My GOD...very often we hear from the mouths of people of all countries of the world. GOD yes GOD, the three letter word has been the controversial word over centuries ever since human beings started using it. In fact, they created innumerable GODs everywhere all around the world and divided the people into groups/religions. In the name of GOD and religion millions of humans were butchered, assassinated and murdered mercilessly. Still there is no evidence to show that GOD has punished those cruel people.
GOD is defined differently by different people. For some Christ is the GOD, for some others Allah or Buddha or Rama or Shiva or Vishnu or numerous others are GODs. At the same time for some there is no GOD at all. They are the Atheists. Even in Hinduism itself there are millions of GODs. Every year, month and day people celebrate festivals in the name of GODs. Festivals like Christmas, Easter, Muharram, Eid al-Fitr, Diwali, Durga Puja, Vinayagar Chaturti are celebrated every year with gay and gaiety spending lots of money to buy new clothes and food. Processions are held around for few days. Fireworks go up in the air creating noise and environmental pollutions. People offer flowers and foods, gold and money to their GODs. Such believes in GOD are growing day by day as we progress technologically.
Because of such blind believes billions of people have, a section of people commercialize GOD and make money and enjoy. GOD-men are plenty in every country, not to say in India. They are everywhere in India. In general, they are versatile speakers and preach Vedas, Bible or Quran to common man. These men and women live comfortably in posh bunglows with thousands of followers who are indeed their devoted fans. They do travel widely to preach their ideas to convince the ignorant and poor people by providing some basic things they badly need. Thus they make more and more followers and become a popular figure in the world. We have enough proof some of them who preach spirituality are bogus and immoral. They are jailed for molestation and rape of women devotees and murdering them. I do not know how people believe such spiritual beings who are virtual criminals.
By the name of GOD heaven and hell are created in the minds of people in order to make them disciplined. It is said that people who do good will go to heaven and those who do bad things will go to hell. This concept is injected deep into the minds of people around. Even educated class of the society believe it as truth. But they fail to understand the nature of heaven and hell. Numerous stories have been popularized all around the world generation after generation.
Even today no one could, I think in future even, prove that GOD is one who controls the Universe and the planet Earth where we live. Is GOD human or alien or a force or energy? We do not know. Some claim they know! I believe GOD is unknown to all of us, although most of us believe otherwise. Some of the fake news spread in the weak minds of mankind has established the concept of GOD. I think it’s the fear we all have is the root cause to accept this concept.
Fear in life is a universal phenomenon. If someone is ill or die or not attaining what he or she wants lead to believe in GOD. By passing on all the sins we have committed, to GOD we believe that we will be excused and allowed to enter the heaven!
One of the famous scientists of our time – Stephen Hawking said – “We are each free to believe what we want and it’s my view that the simplest explanation is that there is no GOD. No one created the Universe and no one directs our fate. There is probably no heaven and after life either. I think belief in after life is just wishful thinking.”
Some say that Google is the modern day GOD, omniscient, omnipotent and trustworthy. In other words Google is the global GOD. - NARA
1. Make the most of those little slots of time – a free fifteen minutes here and there. You can accomplish a lot in those extra lost minutes.
2. Make your work place comfortable and inviting. For example, have an inspiring bookshelf, light a scented candle, put up a few crazy, fun photographs.
3. Make every effort to enjoy the journey – and remind yourself of the arrival fallacy (arriving at your goal is usually a letdown, and doesn’t bring the joy we thought it would bring.)
4. Don’t be afraid of criticism as it can help you to learn and grow. Dreading it too much creates anxiety which them prevents you from producing your best.
5. Recognize that we rarely feel happy when we’re working as we’re bound to struggle with incompetence, failure, frustration and feeling that we don’t know what to do. However, they are only a part of the total picture, and completing a project leads to pride and confidence.
1. If you’re procrastinating because you’re feeling stuck (eg, if you don’t really understand a school assignment, or you don’t know what’s expected, or you don’t know where to start) then pluck up the courage to ask for some help. When you know what you’re doing, it’s easier to work.
2. Remind yourself that most decisions aren’t major. If you get it wrong, you can start over again … or change your direction … or have another try.
3. If the task seems overwhelming, just take a baby step. That, at least, will get you moving – so the next step’s easier.
4. Tell yourself that you can suffer for up to twenty minutes – and then you’ll return to doing things you want to do. You’ll be surprised to discover that “suffering’s” not that bad.
5. Decide to do the task as soon as you get up – as the more you put it off, the worse it’s going to seem!
6. Don’t pretend that other work counts just as much as what you’re leaving. Simply acting like you’re busy won’t make it go away. Be honest with yourself … and do what’s most important first.
A big burly man knocked on the door of the pastor’s house one day and asked to see the minister’s wife, a woman known for her charity work and her love for the poor and helpless.
The woman opened the door and saw the man had tears streaming down his face.
“Oh, whatever is the matter?” she cried out.
“I came to you today, dear madam for the purpose of doing charity and good work.” said the man in a hopeless voice.
“Come in, come in!” the woman admitted him inside and they sat in her living room.
“Madam,” said the man in a broken voice. “I wish to draw your attention to the terrible plight of a poor family in the district. The father is dead, the mother is too ill to work and the nine children are starving. They are about to be turned into the cold empty streets unless someone pays their rent which amounts to Rs.2000/-
“How terrible!” exclaimed the preacher’s wife. “May I ask who you are?”
The sympathetic visitor applied his handkerchief to his eyes, “I am the landlord,” he sobbed.
1. Understand what jealousy is. It’s a mixture of fear and anger – usually the fear of losing someone who’s important to you, and anger at the person who is “taking over”. Recognise that it’s a destructive and negative emotion - and often nothing good comes out of it.
2. Try and figure out why you’re feeling jealous. Is it related to some past failure that is undermining your ability to trust? Are you feeling anxious and insecure? Do you suffer from low self-esteem, or fear of abandonment?
3. Be honest with yourself about how your jealousy affects other people. Do friends or partners always have to justify their actions and thoughts, or always report on where they were, or who they were with? That kind of pressure is destructive in the end, and puts a strain on relationships.
4. Find the courage to tackle your feelings. Decide to question your jealousy every time it surfaces. That will enable you to take positive steps to manage your feelings in a healthier and more constructive way. Some possible questions to ask yourself include: “Why am I jealous about this?”; “What exactly is making me feel jealous?”; “What or who am I afraid of losing?”; “Why do I feel so threatened?”
5. Work on changing any false beliefs that might be fueling your jealousy. Start this process by identifying the underlying belief, for example “If X leaves me, then I won’t have any friends”; “If Y doesn’t love me then no-one will ever want or love me”. Understand, that beliefs are often false – and that they can be changed through choice. If you change your belief, you change the way you feel.
6. Learn from your jealousy. Jealousy can help understand ourselves better – and teach us important lessons. For example, it’s natural to feel frightened when a relationship is new, and you don’t yet feel secure. This is normal and commonplace! Also, some people DO have a roving eye, and they may lack commitment in the longer term. Better you know that now, than later on.
7. Work on accepting and trusting yourself. That makes it easier to trust others, too, and lessens our tendency to feel jealous of others.
Thursday, November 29, 2018
“Fake news” – is the talk of the day. It’s sometimes referred as ‘yellow journalism’ or ‘false propaganda’ or ‘lying press.’ Such news was prevalent even in ancient times. It trickled down the time and today people started feeling it. Basically human beings are news-hungry. They like to know what happened around them. News comes in news-papers (print media) and electronic media such as TV, internet and many other devices. There are news reporters all over the world to gather news and pass on to their news media houses. The gathered news enters the print and electronic media in turn. Instant news is announced as ‘breaking news’. The news thus announced is invariably believed by all of us. In fact, most of the news is real. Some of them are fake or paid news. Such malpractices in the media world are not uncommon.
In social media like Face book, twitter, whatsapp etc. anyone from anywhere can post news and views with ease. Those who visit these social media have to decide whether the news posted is real or fake. Sometimes the fake news is shared and they reach millions of people. Photos and videos are morphed in some cases. With the available technology it becomes possible for anyone to do this magic. There are people who believe these magic and share to his/her friends and those friends in turn share to their friends. Thus there is no end to the spread of this magic in no time.
All these activities create thrill in the minds of people. Finding fault with the existing traditional customs or political personalities or any other individual is an unpleasant activity. Social media is only for expressing one’s genuine view. It may be accepted or may not be accepted by others. Responsible persons are expected to understand whether the views are fake or true. Governments are seriously thinking of curbing fake news in media because some fake news is dangerous.
Another aspect of fake news or views is to discredit a person or a product or a service. If the fake news says that a particular product is bad for health people try to avoid buying that product. Similarly the services offered by someone or NGO is discredited by saying that the person is corrupt or the organization is involved in underground activities. As a result the reputation of a person of a NGO is brought down.
“Fake news” – Can we control? How to identify fake news? One way is to know the source of the news. If the source is genuine then we can believe the news. Similarly the credibility of the author of such news has to be checked. Also one can look into the date of the news. Above all one has to use ones intelligence to analyse whether the news is fake or not.
Therefore the important thing is to curb the fake news and it is urgent too. In today’s world, all kinds of news is spreading throughout the world like forest fire. Necessary legislation has to be laid out so that fake news is abolished from all kinds of media. People will be free of unverified and unwanted news. Some of the standard news media still publish or broadcast genuine news. Hence the media themselves have to take care of fake news. Also those who read news should also be careful in spreading or sharing such news to others. That will go a long way to put an end to “fake news.”
1. Eliminate noise and other distractions from your environment. It takes approximately 15 minutes to reach a place of focused concentration. Thus, constant interruptions will stop you reaching that place.
2. Deliberately structure your environment so that the focus is clearly on studying - and not on doing, and seeing, other things. That may mean changing the room you work in, moving your desk, and so on.
3. Clarify your goals for each piece of work. If you don’t know what you’re doing, or you’re hoping to achieve, you’ll likely go in circles, and simply waste your time.
4. Break large areas of study down into smaller sections, and then plan how you’re going to work through each of these.
5. Set reasonable time limits for each portion of the task – and also for completing the final project. That should help to stop you wasting time on needless details, from wandering down blind alleys, and from procrastinating.
6. Be clear about the requirements for each task. For example, what are the guidelines you have to follow? What standard or quality of work is expected? How detailed does your knowledge have to be? If you’re writing as assignment, how long should it be, and what style and format is required?
7. Isolate yourself. Often, it is best if we lock ourselves away, and avoid other people, when we really need to work. Find a place to hide away, or put a sign or your door – but refuse to talk to anyone until the work is done!
In general, highly sensitive people tend:
1. To be more sensitive to sights, smells, sounds, tastes and smells
2. To be philosophical and more in touch with their spirituality
3. To feel highly uncomfortable when being observed (e.g. by a teacher, a boss, during recitals and performances etc.)
4. To have vivid dreams which they remember in great detail
5. To have a deep appreciation for beauty, art and nature
6. To be good readers of others, and of non-verbal cues
7. To experience very powerful and intense emotions
8. To find it difficult to rebound from strong feelings and emotions
9. To be highly empathic and sensitive to others’ feelings
10. To be hard on themselves, and unforgiving of mistakes.
Three guys are stranded in a desert. By a stroke of luck they find a magic genie lamp. The genie grants each of them one wish.
The first guy wishes to be back home. Wish granted…
The second guy wishes to be back home. Wish granted…
The third guy says, “It feels lonely here now, I wish my friends were with me. Wish granted…
The police stop an old guy in questionable condition at 1 am.
“What are you doing out so late, sir?” asks the police officer.
“I’m going to a seminar on ‘The harmful effects of alcohol,” replies the man.
“Are you pulling my leg or something?!” says the police officer. “Who would hold a seminar like that at this hour?
The man sighs, “my wife.”
1. Give up your need to always be right.
2. Give up your need for control.
3. Give up blame.
4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk, and your limiting beliefs.
5. Give up complaining.
6. Give up your need to impress others.
7. Give up your resistance to change.
8. Give up your fears.
9. Give up your excuses.
10. Give up on living your life to fit other peoples’ expectations.