Friday, March 30, 2012
‘Abnormality’ means departure from the norm. What is normal for one person is sometimes abnormal for another person. The so-called ‘norm’ is determined by a group of people like the society. The ‘norm’ may differ from one individual to another individual or one society to another society. Many a time anyone can notice abnormality in behavior, activity, conversation, style and health in a group of people. In other words, everyone can not behave, act or converse in the normal manner. There will be always deviations from the normal activity. It is a known fact. But still we know that abnormal people are not the majority in a disciplined society. If we take health and fitness for example, abnormality is caused by physical and mental diseases. Such abnormalities are brought down by medical doctors. Someone misbehaves in a public place is considered to be an abnormal person.
Anyone who is intelligent like Einstein, Newton or Darwin is also abnormal according to us. Similarly anyone who is a champion in sports, politics, or business is also abnormal. So abnormality should not be looked down. The number of such abnormal people is minority in number in human population; whereas the so-called normal people are the majority who are within the hold of law and order. Still the diversity we find among us is the cause for our progress in Planet Earth. We know that people differ in their interests and intelligence. Depending on such differences they act for the improvement of our society by creating useful infrastructure. We do not call them ‘abnormal people.’ They are in a sense abnormal because they are a step above the normal people. When we hear the news that someone has committed suicide, or a student has killed a teacher, or someone shot dead the students of a school or college, or a terrorist has planted a sticky bomb in a car to kill the occupant – we get a shock because they are abnormal activities which we never expect to happen, but still they happen. That is why they are abnormal.
Nobel Prize winners, National award holders and billionaires are also abnormal people. Abnormal people, activities, structures, gadgets always make news because they rarely happen. Hence abnormality is a rare affair in our society. Good abnormalities have to be admitted because of their beneficial aspect, at the same time we need to discourage the bad abnormalities because they are injurious to the welfare of our society.
Abnormality is a term used extensively in the science of psychology. A mad man/woman is an abnormal person. Understanding the cause of madness is the job of a psychologist who tries to capture the real reason for the madness and apply his knowledge and experience to bring back the abnormal person to normality. So is the case with all diseased persons. In fact, medical science serves the society to bring down the number of abnormal people as for as health is concerned.
Therefore be normal by controlling some of your desires or be abnormal to achieve some of the unachieved goals. But never be a ‘bad’ abnormal person at all.
There are two ways to slide easily through life: to believe everything or to doubt everything, both ways save us from thinking. – Alfred Korzybski
We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give. – Norman MacFinan
Its aim is to reach a wise outcome efficiently and amicably; and this requires a reasoned approach where you neither apply, not yield, to pressure. Instead, you yield, to the force of the argument and the evidence rather than the forcefulness of the person who is presenting the evidence. You reason, and you are open to the reasons offered by other; but you avoid, if possible, any ego-centric attachment to the argument. As a result, it is not a question of my reasons versus your reasons, or my position versus your position. Instead, we both of us simply explore the arguments and evidence – with an open mind and without taking sides.
In other words, the principled bargainer tries to avoid an adversarial approach and attempts to reach a result that is independent of the will-power of the parties concerned. He sees himself as a problem-solver rather than an adversary or a friend; and he attempts to be ‘hard’ on the problem yet ‘soft’ on the people in order to avoid personal antagonism.
So often, when we disagree about anything, we start to talk and think in terms of my arguments rather than the arguments. Similarly, we tend to polarize around my position – as supported by my arguments. In no time at all we are likely to find that the opponent has become equally entrenched into his position and we are both stuck. We freeze our options into just two: either my way or your way; my position or yours; I win or you win. As soon as we move into this polarization of options we become defensive and resistant to any of the arguments, insights or ideas of our opponent. We might secretly recognize that much of what they say is of value, but we will never admit this to them because this will seem to imply that we are giving way and in danger of losing. – Alex Howard
1. Popular people, throughout the world, tend to be cheerful and friendly. They take a genuine interest in others; they are helpful and kind; interesting and amusing. Unpopular people, on the other hand, are gloomy and hostile; boastful and mainly interested in themselves. They try to get others to do things for them rather than offer very much to others.
2. Some individuals may be popular because of their position as well as their personality. They are able to offer tangible help of one kind or another.
3. Physically attractive individuals, of either sex, tend to be more popular. To some extent obviously, physical attractiveness is something we are born with, or without, as the case may be.
4. We are more likely to be popular if we know how to provide people with appropriate rewards. Many of these are non-verbal: for example, smiling, looking, touching, and using a friendly tone of voice.
5. Intimacy can be rewarding (and not just physical intimacy): for example; we tend to find it rewarding when people share good news with us and disclose intimate thoughts and feelings.
6. Emotional and material support is rewarding. And not surprisingly we tend to be more favorably disposed towards people who support and reward us than we are with those who try to undermine, threaten or punish us!
- Alex Howard
2. Commitment and ownership.
3. Action orientation and goal seeking.
4. Continuous learning.
5. Professional knowledge / skills.
7. Planning, organizing and punctuality.
8. Quality of work.
9. A positive attitude, approachability and responsiveness.
10. Being an inspiring reference to others; thought leadership.
- Subroto Bagchi
Vitamin D is a fat-soluble prohormone that can be obtained from foods—either the few foods in which it is naturally present, such as fish, egg, mushroom or fortified foods—as well as from dietary supplements. It is also produced endogenously when ultraviolet rays from the sun react with 7-dehydrocholesterol in the skin, converting it into the vitamin. Vitamin D has a variety of actions in the body. It binds to the vitamin D receptor (VDR), which then binds to the retinoid X receptor (RXR) and activates the expression of numerous genes. Through this mechanism, vitamin D promotes calcium absorption in the gut and helps maintain calcium and phosphate levels to promote healthy bones. It also helps regulate genes involved in cell growth, neuromuscular and immune function, and reduction of inflammation. Accordingly, vitamin D deficiency has been linked with a wide range of diseases.
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