NARA’S NOTEPAD
VOLUME
15
JANUARY
2019
NUMBER
1
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BY READERS LIKE YOU
Monday, December 31, 2018
OH MY GOD!
OMG – Oh My GOD...very often we hear
from the mouths of people of all countries of the world. GOD yes GOD, the three
letter word has been the controversial word over centuries ever since human
beings started using it. In fact, they created innumerable GODs everywhere all
around the world and divided the people into groups/religions. In the name of
GOD and religion millions of humans were butchered, assassinated and murdered
mercilessly. Still there is no evidence to show that GOD has punished those
cruel people.
GOD is defined differently by
different people. For some Christ is the GOD, for some others Allah or Buddha
or Rama or Shiva or Vishnu or numerous others are GODs. At the same time for
some there is no GOD at all. They are the Atheists. Even in Hinduism itself
there are millions of GODs. Every year, month and day people celebrate
festivals in the name of GODs. Festivals like Christmas, Easter, Muharram, Eid
al-Fitr, Diwali, Durga Puja, Vinayagar Chaturti are celebrated every year with
gay and gaiety spending lots of money to buy new clothes and food. Processions
are held around for few days. Fireworks go up in the air creating noise and
environmental pollutions. People offer flowers and foods, gold and money to
their GODs. Such believes in GOD are growing day by day as we progress
technologically.
Because of such blind believes
billions of people have, a section of people commercialize GOD and make money
and enjoy. GOD-men are plenty in every country, not to say in India. They are
everywhere in India. In general, they are versatile speakers and preach Vedas,
Bible or Quran to common man. These men and women live comfortably in posh
bunglows with thousands of followers who are indeed their devoted fans. They do
travel widely to preach their ideas to convince the ignorant and poor people by
providing some basic things they badly need. Thus they make more and more
followers and become a popular figure in the world. We have enough proof some
of them who preach spirituality are bogus and immoral. They are jailed for
molestation and rape of women devotees and murdering them. I do not know how
people believe such spiritual beings who are virtual criminals.
By the name of GOD heaven and hell
are created in the minds of people in order to make them disciplined. It is
said that people who do good will go to heaven and those who do bad things will
go to hell. This concept is injected deep into the minds of people around. Even
educated class of the society believe it as truth. But they fail to understand
the nature of heaven and hell. Numerous stories have been popularized all
around the world generation after generation.
Even today no one could, I think in
future even, prove that GOD is one who controls the Universe and the planet
Earth where we live. Is GOD human or alien or a force or energy? We do not
know. Some claim they know! I believe GOD is unknown to all of us, although
most of us believe otherwise. Some of the fake news spread in the weak minds of
mankind has established the concept of GOD. I think it’s the fear we all have
is the root cause to accept this concept.
Fear in life is a universal
phenomenon. If someone is ill or die or not attaining what he or she wants lead
to believe in GOD. By passing on all the sins we have committed, to GOD we
believe that we will be excused and allowed to enter the heaven!
One of the famous scientists of our
time – Stephen Hawking said – “We
are each free to believe what we want and it’s my view that the simplest
explanation is that there is no GOD. No one created the Universe and no one
directs our fate. There is probably no heaven and after life either. I think
belief in after life is just wishful thinking.”
Some say that Google is the modern
day GOD, omniscient, omnipotent and trustworthy. In other words Google is the
global GOD. - NARA
RELATIONSHIP KILLERS
1. Breaking trust
2. Lack of respect
3. Jealousy
4. Angry outburst/ high volatility
5. Making assumptions
6. Unreasonable expectations
7. Bitterness
8. Unforgiveness
9. Being cold and uncaring
10. Failing to prioritize your partner.
HOW TO WORK SMART?
1.
Make the most of those little slots of time – a free fifteen minutes here and
there. You can accomplish a lot in those extra lost minutes.
2.
Make your work place comfortable and inviting. For example, have an inspiring
bookshelf, light a scented candle, put up a few crazy, fun photographs.
3.
Make every effort to enjoy the journey – and remind yourself of the arrival
fallacy (arriving at your goal is usually a letdown, and doesn’t bring the joy
we thought it would bring.)
4.
Don’t be afraid of criticism as it can help you to learn and grow. Dreading it
too much creates anxiety which them prevents you from producing your best.
5.
Recognize that we rarely feel happy when we’re working as we’re bound to
struggle with incompetence, failure, frustration and feeling that we don’t know
what to do. However, they are only a part of the total picture, and completing
a project leads to pride and confidence.
PROCRASTINATION
1. If
you’re procrastinating because you’re feeling stuck (eg, if you don’t really understand
a school assignment, or you don’t know what’s expected, or you don’t know where
to start) then pluck up the courage to ask for some help. When you know what
you’re doing, it’s easier to work.
2.
Remind yourself that most decisions aren’t major. If you get it wrong, you can
start over again … or change your direction … or have another try.
3. If
the task seems overwhelming, just take a baby step. That, at least, will get
you moving – so the next step’s easier.
4.
Tell yourself that you can suffer for up to twenty minutes – and then you’ll
return to doing things you want to do. You’ll be surprised to discover that
“suffering’s” not that bad.
5.
Decide to do the task as soon as you get up – as the more you put it off, the
worse it’s going to seem!
6.
Don’t pretend that other work counts just as much as what you’re leaving.
Simply acting like you’re busy won’t make it go away. Be honest with yourself …
and do what’s most important first.
JUST TO LAUGH
A big burly man knocked on the door of the pastor’s house one day
and asked to see the minister’s wife, a woman known for her charity work and
her love for the poor and helpless.
The woman opened the door and saw the man had tears streaming down
his face.
“Oh, whatever is the matter?” she cried out.
“I came to you today, dear madam for the purpose of doing charity
and good work.” said the man in a hopeless voice.
“Come in, come in!” the woman admitted him inside and they sat in
her living room.
“Madam,” said the man in a broken voice. “I wish to draw your
attention to the terrible plight of a poor family in the district. The father
is dead, the mother is too ill to work and the nine children are starving. They
are about to be turned into the cold empty streets unless someone pays their
rent which amounts to Rs.2000/-
“How terrible!” exclaimed the preacher’s wife. “May I ask who you
are?”
The sympathetic visitor applied his handkerchief to his eyes, “I
am the landlord,” he sobbed.
HOW TO COPE WITH JEALOUS FEELINGS?
1. Understand what jealousy is. It’s a mixture of fear and anger –
usually the fear of losing someone who’s important to you, and anger at the
person who is “taking over”. Recognise that it’s a destructive and negative
emotion - and often nothing good comes out of it.
2. Try and figure out why
you’re feeling jealous. Is it related to some past failure that is undermining
your ability to trust? Are you feeling anxious and insecure? Do you suffer from
low self-esteem, or fear of abandonment?
3. Be honest with yourself about how
your jealousy affects other people. Do friends or partners always have to
justify their actions and thoughts, or always report on where they were, or who
they were with? That kind of pressure is destructive in the end, and puts a
strain on relationships.
4. Find the courage to tackle your feelings. Decide to
question your jealousy every time it surfaces. That will enable you to take
positive steps to manage your feelings in a healthier and more constructive
way. Some possible questions to ask yourself include: “Why am I jealous about
this?”; “What exactly is making me feel jealous?”; “What or who am I afraid of
losing?”; “Why do I feel so threatened?”
5. Work on changing any false beliefs
that might be fueling your jealousy. Start this process by identifying the
underlying belief, for example “If X leaves me, then I won’t have any friends”;
“If Y doesn’t love me then no-one will ever want or love me”. Understand, that
beliefs are often false – and that they can be changed through choice. If you
change your belief, you change the way you feel.
6. Learn from your jealousy.
Jealousy can help understand ourselves better – and teach us important lessons.
For example, it’s natural to feel frightened when a relationship is new, and
you don’t yet feel secure. This is normal and commonplace! Also, some people DO
have a roving eye, and they may lack commitment in the longer term. Better you
know that now, than later on.
7. Work on accepting and trusting yourself. That
makes it easier to trust others, too, and lessens our tendency to feel jealous
of others.
LINES I LIKED
Ø Our world is
prosperous but not orderly.
Ø Our
technology reflects disharmony with natural laws.
Ø Out-of-the-box
thinking requires out-of-the-box doing.
Ø Overdoing of
anything is bad.
Ø Overspending
often is a form of economic dependency.
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