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NARA'S NOTEPAD

VOLUME 7
JULY 2011
NUMBER 7

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MEMO FROM NARA


“There is only one caste, the caste of humanity. All of us belong to the human race, so everyone is equal” – said Sri Sathya Sai Baba who expired on a Sunday morning at 7.40 a m. It was 24 April 2011, the Christians of the world celebrated the Easter all over the world. Millions of devotees who benefited from the teachings of Sai Baba were drowned in the sea of sorrow and all of them expected that Baba will not die and hoped with faith that he will make a miracle of recovery. But alas, it did not happen. He was simply a human being performing all the activities for the benefit of fellow human beings. Certainly he believed on humanity and its strength. Attracting all kinds of people from all over the world by a single, simple and spiritual individual in this modern world is not an easy joke. But Sai Baba could do it!

The devotees of Sai Baba believed that Baba is a God and he was eternal, but Baba did not agree with them. Most of the devotees are selfish because they wanted something from Baba by doing service to him and his trust. But no one thought Baba’s wish was that his devotees should help the poor and the weak in the society. By doing such service, they attain happiness and peace of mind. In fact, all these principles of life are known to every sensible individual. But they wanted to hear from the mouth of a great hero who was able to attract millions with his mystic power which was the subject of suspicion for a long time. However, people did not pay much attention to such suspicions because Sai Baba had created a strong feeling in the minds of people who totally surrendered to his charisma. The very dharshan of Baba and getting the ash, ring and other objects he produced instantaneously inspired the intellectuals as well as the common illiterate people. What was the magnetic power with Baba that could attract the minds and souls of millions of people from all nations of the world?
People who had faith in Baba do explain and interpret the philosophy of Sai Baba as convenient to them. But I used to think whether all his devotees who are sincere followers of Baba agree with his statement which I mentioned in the beginning of this note? I believe not because there are very few Indians who follow this advice of Baba. Caste divides humanity and creates inequality. Baba said everyone in this earth is equal. Are we? Are we not? All those who talk high of Sai Baba are not in fact, following his simple principle of a casteless society. They all cried, mourned and travelled long distances to have a dharshan of the lifeless physical body of Baba encased inside a casket decorated with beautiful flowers. It was due to the love and affection they had with Baba. Who really follows the teachings of Baba? Everyone, rich or poor, men or women, able or disabled wanted some benefit from Baba; thus Baba was misused by these people. In fact, Sai Baba was a great human being with all good human characters. His services for education, health and spirituality are being seen by all of us. It is a great achievement of this great soul which has departed from the world, although many believe Baba has not died, and he is still in the minds of millions. Baba was one like you and me, but his way of life and teachings to the people of this world brought glory to him and humanity. Let us wish Baba’s soul rest at peace.


“If we were supposed to talk more than we listen,

we would have two mouths and one ear.”

- Mark Twain

JUST TO LAUGH






Ramu:  You know, husband and wife aren’t allowed to be together in heaven!

Balu: Yes, I do. That’s why it’s called heaven!



A man is talking to God.

The man: God, how long is a million years?

God: TO me it’s about a minute.

The man: God, how much is a million dollars?

God: To me it’s a penny.

The man: God, may I have a penny?

God: Wait a minute.



LOL – Laugh Out Loud.

BARRIERS TO LISTENING


1.     Constantly comparing yourself to the speakers.

2.     Trying to mind read what the talker really thinks.

3.     Planning what argument or story to give next.

4.     Filtering so that one hears only certain topics or doesn’t hear critical remarks.

5.     Judging a statement to be “crazy,” “boring,” “stupid,” “immature,” “hostile,” etc. before it is completed.

6.     Giving off on one’s own daydreams.

7.     Remembering your own personal experiences instead of listening to the talker.

8.     Busily drafting your prescription or advice long before the talker has finished telling his/her woes.

9.     Considering every conversation an intellectual debate with the goal of putting down the opponent.

10.   Believing you are always right so no need to listen.

11.   Quickly changing the topic or laughing it off if the topic gets serious.

12.   Placating the other person by automatically agreeing with everything.

Because of these barriers, we typically retain for a few minutes only 65 per cent of what is said to us (recall 2 months later is 25 per cent)

RULES FOR KIDS


v  Don’t be selfish.

v  Don’t make mistakes.

v  Don’t be emotional.

v  Don’t tell people if you don’t like them.

v  Don’t be so unreasonable.

v  Don’t question people.

v  Don’t interrupt.

v  Don’t trouble others with your problems.

v  Don’t complain.

v  Don’t upset others.

v  Don’t brag.

v  Don’t be anti-social.

v  Do what people ask you to do.

v  Help people who need help… and so on…on…on…

FAILURE FORWARD



  • Failure is not the opposite of success. Failure is an important component of success. Suppose you set an objective, take action, and then fail to reach that objective on the first attempt.
  • Even though you have experienced a failure, you're in much better shape than you were before you started.
  • Because you've just learned, in a compelling and meaningful way, what doesn't work? And that puts you well on the way to finding what does work. 
  •  The greatest achievements of all time are built upon multiple failures. The greatest achievers are those who are willing to experience failure on their way to the success they know will most certainly come. 
  •  No one sets out with the intention of failing. Yet when failure comes, it is nothing to be ashamed of, and no reason to give up. 
  •  Learn to see failure as just another step in the process of success. And even when the failures come, they will serve to move you forward.
-- Ralph Marston


PRACTICAL STEPS FOR MORE EFFECTIVE LISTENING



1.        Talk less. One of my students used to say that when she facilitated classes she always told her students that God gave you one mouth and two ears that should tell you something.

2.        Get rid of distractions. If it is important for you to listen, do everything you can to eliminate internal and external noise and distractions that interfere with careful listening.

3.        Don't judge prematurely. All of us are guilty of forming snap judgments and evaluating others before hearing them out especially when the speaker's ideas conflict with our own.

4.        Look for key ideas. We think much faster than people speak. To help focus attention (rather than drift off in boredom) extract the central idea.

5.        Ask sincere questions. Devil's advocate questions are really statements or criticisms in disguise. Sincere questions are requests for new information that clarifies a speaker's thoughts or feelings.

6.        Paraphrase. Reword the speaker's thoughts in your own words to make sure your interpretation as a listener is accurate.

7.        Suspend your own agenda. In other words, while you are listening, concentrate on what the speaker is saying not what you think.

8.        Empathic listening. Empathic listening is knowing that given the same set of circumstances you might have done the same thing. It is the ability to experience the world from the other's point of view. It doesn't necessarily mean that you agree, but that you understand.

9.        Open your heart with love. Often we listen to score points and make ourselves right and the other person wrong. When we open our hearts to each other, we do so with the belief that we are all the same. We have the same feelings, fears, and hurts.

VALOR

LI NA - FRENCH OPEN CHAMPION



There are three categories of people in the world. First are those who are scared to start a piece of work in view of the difficulties they might encounter while doing it. Second are those who start the work, but abandon it midway when a problem or difficulty arises. Third are those who not only start the work but also complete it successfully irrespective of difficulties. People belonging to the third category are called brave and valor is attributed to them.

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