Friday, April 29, 2016
I am not a lawyer. Still I like to pen down something about lawyers who are professionals, serving our society by upholding the law of the land. If I am a lawyer, I may not know some of the flaws committed by lawyers. As an ordinary citizen of our country, I keep myself informed about what is going on around us.
A full page report on the lawyers’ agitation in Madras High Court in a daily recently induced me to think about the lawlessness of lawyers! The statistics presented regarding pending cases in Tamil Nadu was 8.8 lakh criminal cases as on December 2014 is of course alarming! I think the increase in number of cases is something to do with the growing population or peoples’ intolerance.
Lawyers boycotting court, the sacred place where everyone including common men and women come to seek justice, leads to accumulate more cases. “Cancelling one day would quite obviously increase the cases at a faster rate” felt one of the advocates. A yesteryear-lawyer felt that he obeyed the law and kept himself away from litigants and maintained a safe distance. It is often said nowadays that olden time was the best to live in!
Why lawyers are lawyers indulge in lawless activities at times? We do observe the lawlessness in Government Law Colleges. Students go on strike for indefinite periods and take law in their hands creating lawlessness. These students become full-fledged lawyers and behave the same way as they behaved in their colleges.
In general, lawyers identify themselves with caste associations, political parties etc. No judge is enforcing discipline among lawyers who are vociferous and arrogant. Lack of infrastructure and too many vacancies in Government Law Colleges are cited as reasons for students’ lawlessness.
It is expected that a lawyer should be proud to call him or herself an honourable lawyer by suitably equipping themselves as one and not disobeying the law. It is not as if all lawyers are bad, but a few of them are! In fact, such number is increasing day by day. The issue raised by the lawyers of Tamil Nadu is that Tamil should be the court language. All lawyers fully know that High Court has no power to declare Tamil as the official court language. Still the lawyers protested in the Madras High Court campus.
One of the advocates, Sudha Ramalingam said that the few advocates who have taken law into their hands, eroded the image of Bar and the Bench in the eyes of the common man. Resolving the problem has become a responsibility of Judges. Negotiations and mediations are the ways by which the learned Judges can resolve differences and come to a conclusion to run the court for the countless clients who knock the doors of courts every day.
Whatever we may say, the fact remains that in India when a child lies, it is said that you are fit to become a lawyer. It is a general perception that if you are a lawyer you would lie! Actually it is not true as an advocate says. A lawyer is not supposed to lie and hence he is an officer of the court!
v Breathe. When stressed, lost in a problem or the past or future in your mind breathe with your belly for two minutes and just focus on the air going in and out. This will calm your body down and bring your mind back into the present.
v Do one thing a time. You’ll get better results and feel better and less stressed while doing those things.
v Write it all down. Use your mind for better things than remembering what to do. And the mind is often like a leaky bucket. So write down all your great ideas, insights and thoughts before they go missing somewhere and add what you need to do to a to-do list.
v Do all your food shopping once a week. You’ll save time, energy and possibly money.
v Stop doing what you don’t like doing any more. Life changes and so do you. If you don’t like doing something anymore then stop doing that (even if it may take some time before you can do so by for example: switching jobs).
v Stop trying to please everyone. There will always be people who you don’t get along with or that do not like you for some reason.
v Stop trying to do things perfectly. Go for good enough instead and when you are there you are done. Get things all the way to do this way and then move on to the next thing.
v Pack your bag before you go to bed. Then you don’t have to get stressed out by that in morning and you are less likely to forget something.
Once all the engineering professors were sitting in one plane. Before the take off one announcement came “this plane is made by your students” then all professors stood up, ran and went outside, but the principal was sitting. One gay came and asked “You are not afraid” then the Principal replied: “ I trust my students very well and I am sure the plane won’t ever start.”
Last night I got into an argument with my husband. I told him to take what’s his and leave. He picked me and walked straight out of the door.
A blonde calls Delta Airlines and asks, ‘Can you tell me how long it’ll take to fly from New York city to London?’ The agent replies, ‘just a minute.’ Thank you’ the blonde says and hang up.
- Being enough isn’t something you have to prove.
- Being enough isn’t something you have to earn.
- You are immensely valuable right now – just where you are, and just as you are.
- It doesn’t matter how you dress, where you’re from, or how you look – you are valuable.
-It doesn’t matter what you’ve achieved (or haven’t achieved) – you are valuable.
- It doesn’t matter what your peers or your family do and say – you are valuable.
- It doesn’t matter what you’ve done (whether good or bad) – you are valuable.
- Don’t believe the lies you’re hearing, or are saying to yourself.
1. Think before you speak as you can’t take back your words.
2. Don’t say anything until you’re feeling calm. We often regret what we say when we are mad.
3. Be simple and clear when you express what bothered you. Don’t be disrespectful, rude or hyper-critical.
4. Choose to leave the room or to distract yourself when you feel your emotions are really being stirred.
5. Try, if you can, to get some exercise as that reduces stress, and changes physiology.
6. Think about the people you enjoy being with, as that will remind you that not everyone is bad.
7. Try to plan ahead so you have some strategies when your feel the anger rising and you need to take control.
Saturday, April 2, 2016
Freedom of speech is our right today. We are free to question everything and anything happening around us. There was a time we had no freedom to ask questions. In fact we were afraid and we were also not allowed to question. We accepted everything and anything even within our own family. In schools and colleges we just blindly followed what the teachers and professors said. We thought we have to follow the elders.
But today, in the modern world education opened our eyes to ask questions to find sensible answers. Both boys and girls have the courage to question every activity in order to get a suitable answer. Even the government orders or court judgements are questioned! In our parliamentary system, we see how the majority party is questioned by the minority parties.
People today ask questions like: ‘who says God likes topless men not jeans?’ and ‘why Science Congress is a circus?’ If such questions are not asked there will not be progress in these fields. In order to make improvements and progress we need to ask constructive questions which will lead to constructive planning and execution of projects. This is the positive side. At the same time, people question just t o block a project. Such protests sometimes lead to violence. We do see such activities everyday in our towns and cities.
Free speech sometimes offends somebody. Last year (2015) in the month of January 12 people connected with Charlie Hebdo were gunned down in Paris because of the free speech phenomenon. Cartoons supposedly insulting the Prophet Mohammad were published in Charlie Hebdo. Writers want freedom to write whatever they want. Free speech has to be curtailed if it calls for violence or criminality. Respect for others has to be kept in mind when we speech or write.
Questioning is not wrong, but protesting is wrong. Questioning is to find a solution. Protesting is a severe method used for finding solution. Freedom of speech has to be used in the proper way. We cannot speak irrelevant things in the name of freedom of speech. One has to be responsible to look the good and bad of an event or an idea or an opinion or a viewpoint. Then only one can find a solution. Preconceived hard ideas cannot solve a problem!
Most of the politicians and lawyers employ a technique to achieve their goals. The technique is to simply crate fear in the minds of people. People with fear cannot be free. So they lose their freedom and never try to question. Such things are tried with individuals. At the same time, the fear is overlooked in a group of individuals. These groups revolt and question politicians and lawyers. In India, although it is free and democratic, freedom is somehow denied for a larger section of people even today. Only the braves stand up and question whereas the weak submit and keep quite. Probably that is the way of life – it appears!
1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
2. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
3. Follow the three Rs.
4. Respect for self.
5. Respect for others.
6. Responsibility for all your actions.
7. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
8. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
9. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
10. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
11. Spend some time alone every day.
12. Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values.
13. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
14. Live a good, honourable life. Then when you get older and think back, you'll be able to enjoy it a second time.
15. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
16. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don't bring up the past.
17. Share your knowledge. It's a way to achieve immortality.
18. Be gentle with the earth.
19. Once a year, go someplace you've never been before.
20. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
21. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
- DALAI LAMA
We fail to see the opportunity for joy that is right in front of us when we are caught in a belief that happiness should take a particular form. – Thich Nhat Hauh
Kindness in words creates confidence and kindness in thinking creates profoundness. – Lao Tzu
Rising inequalities is one of the great challenges of our time: - Thomas Piketty.
There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so. – William Shakespeare
A rich businessman walks down the street when he spots an old man sitting with a fishing rod next to a puddle, trying to fish. The businessman takes pity on the old deranged man and invites him to lunch at the coffee shop close by. After the meal, the businessman asks him with a smile: “So? Did you catch any fish today?” “Sure did,” answers the old man “you’re my third one.”
A little girl comes home from school and tells her mom ”Mommy, today I got punished for something I didn’t do!”
“What?. What do you mean?” Her mother says, angry, “I’m going to call your teacher right now! What is it you didn’t do?”
“My home work.”
First, recognize that not everyone is like you. We have different likes and dislikes, we want different things, and we all see people and the world in different ways. Hence, it is natural that sometimes people will be upset, offended, or react differently from what we expected. It’s not necessarily personal – it’s more a reflection of the fact that we all are different.
2. Try and leave your emotions aside and objective analyse the situation. Ask yourself: “Is this person’s reaction triggering something me?” It could be that you are over-reacting to a perceived rejection because of previous hurts, put downs and rejections. Alternatively, the other person’s reaction could be more related to what is going on in their life at the time (rather than being a personal rejection of you.)
3. Be alert to over-generalizing and over-personalizing. For example, look out for the tendency to think things like that “That means I’m a terrible person, and no-one likes me” or “I never do anything right. I always say and do the wrong thing. I’m always going to get it wrong and be rejected by everyone.”
4. Look for friendships and affirmation in other places. It’s wise to have a wide range of friends and acquaintances so that our self-image and self-esteem aren’t tied into how a few key people treat us, or react towards us.
5. Accept that snubs and rejections are part of life. We can’t please all of the people all of the time – we can only please some of the people some of the time. And while it’s wise to check to see if we display certain habits, traits or behaviours that often annoy others (and it is wise to work on changing those), at the end of the day we just have to be ourselves. We can’t spend our lives walking on egg shells, or trying to be someone we were never meant to be.
Ø Many good sayings are found in holy books, but merely reading them will not make one religious.
Ø Many men seek to destroy innocent lives in order to promote a cause or gain power over others.
Ø Many of our most baffling problems are pure illusion.
Ø Many of the great things in the history of our civilization have been achieved by the independent will of a determined soul.