1. Understand that loneliness is a
feeling, and not necessarily a fact. Sometimes we feel lonely, unwanted or
rejected based on wrong beliefs about ourselves and others. Often people and
events acts as triggers for our feelings … and then we start to act as if they
represent the truth.
2. Fight the urge to withdraw or to
isolate yourself. You’ll actually feel better if you some spend time with
others (but spend time with people who love you, just for “you”.)
3. Check for making assumptions, or
jumping to conclusions, or skewed ways of thinking which make things seem much
worse. Then, look for exceptions to balance up the picture. Don’t waste your
time and energy on biased, untrue stuff.
4. Related to this, make sure you’re not
attacking or putting yourself down. Try and focus on your good points, and
things that you do right.
5. Work on being warm and friendly – as
often other people are hiding their own feelings of insecurity. Hence, they’ll
often be responsive when we are warm and friendly – and then reciprocate by
being interested in us.
6. Try and find other people who share
some of your interests – as that’s a natural way to form connections, or build
bridges.
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