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MEMO FROM NARA

How to win over others? or how to influence a person’s beliefs, attitudes, intentions, motivations or behaviours? – These are questions every one of us faces every day in our profession. We influence others for various reasons because people depend on others for many things. Winning over others – not defeating them – is an art, otherwise known as persuasion. Persuading others for various purposes depend on our need. When we need a help – may be money, votes, food, shelter, security etc. we have to persuade in such a way that we are successful in getting them. For that, we have to use the tactic/strategy of persuasion carefully without hurting the feelings of others.

Leaders should master the technique of persuasion. Religious leaders try to persuade people to join in their religion by telling the goodness of their religion over the other religions. Business leaders have to change the attitude of their subordinates towards the consumers/customers. Political leaders win over their cadres by providing them opportunities for them. Mostly changing behaviour of people is done through logic and reason. Sometimes even bribing helps in influencing people. We call it as corruption. If friendly persuasion fails, people try to use force or blackmailing strategy. Thus there are many ways to win over others.

In order to achieve over ambitions, persuasion is generally used. People who are physically attractive seem to be more persuasive. Likewise people who are similar in behaviour and attitude with others are good in persuasion. Knowledgeable and trustworthy person has an edge over others in influencing people. In fact, we are always influenced by others around us; we want to do what everyone else is doing.

The secret of persuasion to change the minds of people like defeating the erroneous views of others was given by Blaise Pascal (1623 -1662) as “People are generally persuaded by the reasons which they have themselves discovered then by those which have come into the minds of others.” Changing the minds of people is challenging but persuasion is the solution for it.

Eloquence is an essential part of persuasion. It is said that eloquence is painting of thought. Therefore, eloquence is an art of saying things in such a way – that those to whom we speak may listen to them without pain and with pleasure; that they feel themselves interested, so that self-love leads them more willingly to reflection upon it!

Hence, Blaise Pascal said – “Kind words do not cost much; yet they accomplish much.”

BE GRATEFUL

BE GRATEFUL…

1. Thank God I woke up this morning.
2. I’m so happy I’m alive.
3. I’m so grateful for the roof over my head.
4. I’m thankful for each and every breath I take.
5. I’m grateful I have my food on my table.
6. I’m blessed to have clean drinking water.

         

BELIEF

Belief is mental acceptance of some idea as being true. You accept ideas from others because they are authority figures. This setting of a belief in your mind (usually at a young and trusting age) comes about because you have absolute trust in the authority (generally the parent, sometimes the religious or educational institution, sometimes another trusted outside agency such as a relative, peer, or the media).

This acceptance can come about even when there are facts that contradict it. Reinforcement of beliefs strengthens until, faulty or true, they become a fundamental part of your thought processes. To entrench matters more, now beliefs are tested through the structure of the faulty belief, thereby compounding the problem. What this means is that you only accept information that reinforces the belief. Information that contradicts the belief is rejected.

JUST TO LAUGH

A man complains to a friend. “I had it all – money, a beautiful house, a nice car, a great motor cycle, the love of a beautiful woman. Then it was all gone!”

“What happened?” asks the friend.

“My wife found out!” replies man.

Charlie: I don’t believe in vaccinations.

Sarah: Why not?

Charlie: “My uncle got vaccinated and died a week later!

Sarah: I’m sorry to hear that, what did he die for?

Charlie: He fell out a window.

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

1. Movement toward any goal is better than analysis paralysis. Remember, done is better than perfect.
2. It’s not about perfection but direction.
3. The key to happiness is having dreams. The key to success is making your dreams come true.
4. How you handle yourself on the bad days will determine your success on the good days.
5. Happiness is your responsibility, not others. Don't waste your life in search of ultimate satisfaction. Find pleasure each moment you live and satisfaction with each breath you take. Decide to be happy. One day it will be your last breath.
6. Fall in love with what you're doing in life or stop doing it. Remember, if the horse is dead, get off it!
7. Tough problems never last; tough people do.
8. To have a sense of control, know where you’re going and why you’re going there.
9. Out of every negative comes at least one positive.
10. If you don't prepare for change you'll never be prepared for the future.

LINES I LIKED...

• The future belongs to those who are bold.
• The future depends entirely on what each of us does every day.
• The future is better than you think.
• The future is simply a manifestation of what we are presently thinking.
• The future of the country can only be secure when the future of its children is safe.
• The true purpose of education is to train the mine to think.
• The time is always right to do what is right.

BEING REALISTIC...

It is natural to want to be perfect, but aiming for perfection inevitably leads to negative feelings simply because – in work, play, friendship or love – perfection just is not possible most of the time. So challenge your perfectionist thoughts. Be realistic in what you expect of yourself, of other people, of the world. Do not stop aiming high, achieving well, or expecting the best of others, but stop feeling bad when things do fall short of perfection in some way.

TO QUOTE...

Don’t compare your relationship with those of your parents, friends or extended family. Each relationship is different just as each person is. – Melissa D’Costa

What you resist – persist!

Meet you next month – October, 2015

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Everyone talks about peace because everyone wants it badly. We want to live in harmony with others. Peace keeps us socially intact and gives us a happy life. Peace in a society or in a nation helps the improvement of the society or nation. So, all are interested in keeping the peace at any cost. But unfortunately peace in society is disturbed at times by differences in opinion and diversity in culture.

Similarly nations in the world like to be peaceful in order to improve the lifestyle of peoples and country’s infrastructure. But border issues, religious intolerance, economic imbalances, inadequate national resources create disturbances. Treaties are being signed among nations whenever the leaders of the nations meet. They talk much about peaceful coexistence. But somehow differences create difficulties. Sometimes fighting between countries also takes place.

Peace of mind is considered as one of the virtues man wants in life. Peace of mind for every individual helps to attain happiness and good health. But how to achieve peace? Practice the mind to keep in peace. It has lot of effects on the body and mind. On the other hand, peacelessness disturbs our mind. It affects our thinking, our daily activities and work. Anger and anxiety are created in the peaceless mind! Normal life is affected. People suffer just because they do not have peace!

Countries in the world often do not live in peace. So they thought of an organization to keep peace in the world. Thus they created the United Nations in 1948. All the countries of the world are members – rich and the poor nations. In general, peace is disturbed by natural calamities, man-made civil wars, terrorism, religious fighting, racial differences, border disputes etc. So, sometimes peace is to be kept by force. The United Nations has a wing for peace keeping force sent out to countries where the above mentioned calamities occur. In fact, these forces are sent by various member countries.

Every year May 29 is observed as International Day for Peace Keeping by the United Nations. Peace in the world is achieved by conciliation and understanding. Talks across the table often fail because of the adamant nature of nations. Lots of lives are lost because of such adamant attitude. No one cares about it! Peace makers make rules and resolutions to create an environment of harmony and friendship. Peace keepers physically involve themselves to keep peace. They take risk. Our world is swinging between peace and peacelessness. Avoiding conflicts is essential. We need to forget the differences among human beings living in different countries. People of a country may not have as much hatred towards the people of another country as the rulers of the country. Because of their adamant tendencies peace is disturbed and countries are put to difficulty. “Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding” said Alfred Einstein. Let the leaders of every country learn this and keep their citizens happy.

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LINES I LIKED PART II

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TO AVOID CRITICISM...

 

To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing. People are going to criticize you for whatever you do. You will never be able to accomplish anything if you pay too much attention to what they have to say.

LEARN SOMETHING NEW...

The need to learn something doesn’t stop when we stop going to school. Learning for the sake of learning is what makes us human and what allows us to continue to grow and evolve into ourselves.

A world of interesting information and knowledge awaits and it has never been easier to learn something new. You can start to enhance your life by watching a Ted talk, listening to a podcast or subscribe to feeds like Did you know? and Tell Me Why? Whatever it is, learn something new today.

Learning makes us confident, feeds our creative soul and broadens our perspective. It doesn’t have to be a formal process; you can start by devoting just ten minutes a day to learning something new.

 

JUST TO LAUGH...

Early one morning, a mother went into wake up her son.

“Wake up son. It’s time to go to school!”
“But mom, I don’t want to go.”
“Give me two reasons why?”
“Well the kids hate me, and the teachers hate me too!”
“That’s no reason, come on now and get ready.”
“Give me two reasons why I should go to school?”
“Well, for one, you’re 52 years old. And for another, you’re the principal.”

 Raju and his wife were going to the city in an auto. When the driver adjusted the mirror, Raju shouted “you are trying to see my wife. Come and sit at the back, I will drive the auto.

BREATHE...

 

Deep and purposeful breathing is our best tool against anxiety, frustration and overall negative feelings. When you start to feel tension in your neck or butterflies in your stomach, take a minute and breathe deeply. Close your eyes and focus on your breath. Breathe in deeply through your nose and visualize your entire body filling up with your breath. Then slowly exhale through your mouth and watch the breathe leave. Do this five times and feel the incredibly relaxing effects it has on your body and mind.